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I have developed very strong feelings for my best friend. We cuddle sometimes and spend hours alone together (we literally spoke for 12hrs straight for one weekend). We also live next door.

I told her about my feelings a few months ago. She said she wants to graduate before getting into another relationship. I am willing to wait, however she wants me to get over her because she doesn't want me waiting nor knows if she'll reciprocate feelings when she's ready. There are several other issues too. First, she's living with her ex and he tries to poison her mind against me. She really wants her next relationship to be her last; so she wants to put a lot of effort into learning about her next partner before committing. Discussions with her ex has caused her to focus on how my pitfalls may make me a poor husband (this mostly consists of ways we are incompatible). One example is I find it difficult to be blunt so I tend to spin the truth into what I see as more digestible chunks. She on the other hand loves brutal honesty because it's essential for blind trust, something she had with her ex.

Now she has come up with a set of reasons why she thinks she won't want to date in the future. She's told me these reasons and wants me to move on.

Also, I don't want to move on because I think she's the one and her ex is just a barrier right now. I've also just came out of a 7 year relationship 9 months ago and I'm only 22. So I have no emotional independence so I'm thinking I need to remain single for at least a year anyway. So my thinking is if I retain feelings for her, someone who does not reciprocate but provides subtle emotional support, I can slowly develop emotional independence instead of falling into another relationship and getting stuck as someone who's emotionally dependant.

So what should I do? Should I try and get over her? My attempts have just made me very sad so I'm not trying too hard right now.

Tall women constantly defend their preference for a taller man as necessary because they need a tall man to make them feel short. Simultaneously while proclaiming that they love their height. They laud height as a supremely masculine feature while turning a blind eye to the natural extension of their logic - that their bodies, as tall women, are also "masculine" in nature. Now I don't personally believe that masculininty or feminity is determined by the length of your limbs, but here's why this logic bothers me.

To maintain this dissonance without calling themselves "manly", tall women instead place the blame on short men. It is short men's fault that they feel like giants when they stand next to us. It is short men's height that is the problem. If we are strictly speaking by societal norms, then the short man's height is only half the problem. If the man is too short to be a man, then we could also say the woman is too tall to be a woman. If tall women can refuse to date us because we don't make them feel feminine, why aren't we allowed to place the blame on tall women for making us feel "un-masculine?"

The short answer is that it's not a viable option for the average man in today's dating market. However, this line of thinking is what leads to tall women believing that short men are incompatible and undesirable. Why are women who deviate outside of gender norms acceptable but the men who do so are shamed? Why are tall women's insecurities with their own bodies turned on its head and projected onto short men?