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I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now. Around the 10 month mark of the relationship, I discovered that he hid something somewhat important to me about another girl because he didn't think it was important even though we saw her everyday. Following that, there have had been other issues of dishonesty and not being a good boyfriend like backing out of a plan we made the night before even though he didn't mind the whole week we planned it.

So, as one person does after he broke the camel's back, I told him that I am most likely going to break up with him or at least really considering it because he indirectly got smart with me when I asked if our photo album came in the mail. We texted for HOURS over the phone trying to discuss it and the whole time I'm mad because I am already mentally drained from the relationship.

The real thing it comes down to is if he's either willing to change for the sake of this relationship like being able to adapt/actually be with someone, or is he just keeping me around/being selfish. Last time we spoke this intensely was earlier this month and he promised to be more honest/open, yet all he was doing was continually giving me compliments for no reason every minute of the day. When I said that was too much, he used it against me saying it made him feel bad and will have a "hard time" being "open" again. He still gives me random compliments now as well even though he has never done that prior to that conversation really.

He does know that he is selfish sometimes since he stated it himself that I deserve better, but yet still promises change. I'm not sure what to do, what do you think?

tl;dr- considering keeping in contact with an ex im still in love with. broke up last December, talked once every month since then.

I broke up with my ex a few days before Christmas last year. Basically I'm still crazy about him but I had reasons to end the relationship (he was a good partner, he did everything to try and make it work- it's my seriously ugly personal issues). Since we broke up I've just been obsessing about it but I never showed. He sent a long message on new year's day greeting me and telling me he still loves me. I replied and that convo didn't last long. About last week of January, he called me and we talked for a while. After that call, he sent a lot of messages asking if we could still make it work. I love him a lot but I was so sure that getting back together isn't the right thing to do so I stuck with my decision. I blocked him on Facebook after that because it became harder for me to stop thinking about him. I'd visit his profile a lot. Just two days ago he sent messages on Instagram but he unsent them. Then last night he called and we talked for a few hours. It was a really nice talk and I felt instantly better. It included saying I could call him anytime I need someone to talk to. He said he's still waiting and hoping for something between us. He understands why I ended things with him which I didn't expect because he really didn't do anything for me to act that way.

Anywaynot a day goes by that I don't think about him and I miss him a lot so I've thought about considering calling him every now and then. Would that be unhealthy? I didn't say anything to him about getting back together. We just agreed that we can call each other anytime we want, and I do want to. I just dont know what's right or wrong about this anymore.