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My ex dumped me a month ago for being clingy, obsessive, and a drunk (I had a drinking problem caused a lost job, a crashed vehicle, and losing her). After the breakup, I made mistakes of begging and crying for another chance. She wasn't having it so she blocked me (twice actually). Skip down the road and we have been hanging out and occasionally sleeping together. Last week we were laying in bed and she said "You know I still love you, right?". Since that moment it was like we were dating again: kissing, cuddling, sex, dates, saying I love you's, the works. She did state though throughout it all that she loves me, but wants to be single for now. She also admits to talking to other guys, and having slept with two guys right after the breakup. She doesn't tell these guys off when they flirt with her and ask her out, so it gets my anxiety racing. I try to keep my cool and not let her know it bothers me. But i did have to tell her "I will fight for your love, but I won't compete for it." Lately her words act like she loves me and wants to be with me, but her actions don't quite. We have been together every day and night the last week hanging out playing video games cuddling kissing etc. But she stated two of her exes have come back into her life and they both want to date her and she told them basically they have to try harder. I asked today "so if they try harder and prove to you they're different would you give them a chance?" And she said yes. I then asked what about us and she said well it depends on where you and I are at that time. She claims she doesn't want to play games and hates games, but it sounds like that's exactly what she is doing right now. Is she toying with me keeping me around until someone better comes along, or does she actually want to be with me? I'm keeping this question strictly to girls because guys can be d***s with their answers. Thanks.

Hi everyone. Please be nice here. Unfortunately I'm the one who got dumped so in a bummed out state. Anyways, the background: my exgirlfriend throughout our relationship constantly warned me I was too clingy, obsessive, And had a drinking problem. I admit I was clingy and obsessive. It took crashing my car, losing my job, And finally losing her to realize I had a drinking problem. I have been 100% sober since she dumped me, And even attend AA and a therapist on a weekly basis. As for the clingy/obsessive, I've messed up multiple times begging/pleading her for another chance. She either stops responding, yells at me, or blocks me for a couple days. After each episode I have, I don't contact her until she contacts me again. She honestly acts hot and cold towards me and it confuses me. Since the breakup, we have gone on what I consider dates: ice cream, mall, etc. I say dates because we held hands and even kissed in public. She even sleeps over sometimes (sex only once). But last time she was over, she told me I was rushing too fast into a relationship when she is in a state right now believing us can't happen again and I've blown my chances. I kept my cool in person, only to beg the next day (I know I know...). She didn't block me, though. Just told me to stop messaging her. That same afternoon, she posted a pic on Facebook of flowers saying "I wish someone would do this for me." Background: I am the ONLY person in her life (boyfriend, family, friends) to EVER buy her flowers. She was on a trip to Denmark, And I learned Danish just to call and order the flowers at the Danish shop. Anyways, I messaged her about it saying "I can do that again if you'd let me". Her response: "I'll never let you just f*ck off with that idea." I left her alone for couple hours then basically apologized saying I need to accept the breakup happened, And need to stop trying to force what's not there. I then asked her to be there for me as I work on myself. She said she has tried but I beg.

So some background: my girlfriend dumped me about 3 weeks ago for couple reasons. I'm clingy, obsessive, and have a drinking problem that caused me to become rude and argumentative to her, family, And any innocent bystander practically. Since the breakup, I have been sober and have attended AA weekly. Immediately post breakup, I screwed up and begged for a second chance. She ended up blocking me. After a few days, she unblocked me on text and snapchat. We have been talking and hanging out. At first, if I tried flirting she would get upset saying I'm crossing the line. But lately things have been sliding. She has crashed at my place multiple times. We either have sex or we cuddle all night. In the mornings when I leave for work I get a kiss. Yesterday, we went shopping at the mall and she let me hold her hand while we walked (I instigated). One concern I guess is she has kept me a secret from friends and family. She says they aren't huge fans of me due to how I handled the breakup and being a drunk, so I guess I understand that. Last night after shopping, we were playing Xbox and she casually threw out "you're my boo." I mean that's not really something you throw out, right? I want her back, And don't want to ruin it by rushing. Is she dropping hints she does want to get back together? Or am I just overlooking pointless things?