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I have noticed a pattern regarding social interactions throughout my life. I was an only child for most of my younger years, through middle school and up until now, I encounter animosity with other individuals. I was bullied as a kid and dealt with catty girls in high school. I am now in my mid twenties and have my first real job, I cannot say it has improved. I never really have drama with men, it’s always women. I do not see myself as a threat, I’m very quiet. When I tried to be friendlier in high school, people picked on me. I have come to a point where I just am completely solitary and still seem to have this issue, I am now being bullied in the workplace. People have made remarks about how quiet I am, I do not greet when I leave or enter the office. I should find a middle ground where I can be introverted & still friendly to some degree but I choose not to.

For the most part, there is always 1-2 women, that try to make my life difficult in some type of environment (work/school). I know I sound like a victim here but I cannot help but come to the conclusion that I am. I go from dealing with school girls to grown women with children. I’m damned if I do and dammed if I don’t. I do not think my experience has been normal, I do not want to come across as a pushover. I refuse to be a people pleaser, I prefer to put my foot down. This has been brought to the attention of management, they’re generally passive and tend to approach from a general standpoint (try to at least sustain the issue/ not make it too obvious). It usually results in the drama gets out of control and there’s tense confrontation.

Any insight? Doesn’t sound like I’m the issue?

Or are others the issue? I really don’t think I’m the problem here, I know I sound like a victim. But clearly I am. I don’t have any meaningful coworker relationships, everyone is buddy buddy. I always encounter a woman/women that do things to make my life miserable. And I’m quiet/ only speak when spoken to. Am I just simply unlucky? My life has always been like this.