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I believe first impressions are everything. It's something you always remember about the specific person, and it influences the way you think about them, regardless of whether that impression truly fits who they are.

For example, there was this decent looking girl in my class when I first started this program. I tried to make some small talk with her, but ended up sounding very awkward (I worded a question awfully). We had to continue this awkward uncomfortable conversation full of silences while we were waiting in line for the bathroom. It was almost hilariously bad. I was slightly embarrassed and I felt like such a dork haha.

Now, over a year later, all I think about when I see that girl is that first encounter and how unsmoothly it went. I'm sure the same goes for her.

So do you believe first impressions are everything?

So I've gone on a few dates with this girl now. Things went well for the most part. Good conversations, we connected; a few semi awkward silences but nothing bad.

After our last date a couple days later I texted her propositioning her for another date. She said she would love to but the day I asked about she had to work 12 hours and wouldn't want to do anything but go to bed. Valid reason, but she never offered up another day that might work better for her so I just said "maybe some other time." I gave it a few days and I believe asked again (honestly can't remember if I asked twice or 3 times since it was weeks ago). I'm sure she was somehow busy again but I don't recall the reason or anything. Days later I tell her that the offer is still on the table. She tells me things have been hectic since she's moving/working/etc. and she will have to check her schedule. Ok, so it's in her hands now and by now I think, "I can take a hint," so I just stop trying to contact her.

Fast forward to now (2/3 weeks later) and she texts me telling me she's sorry she hasn't been in contact (had family issues) and she didn’t want me to think she was ignoring me. Hey, good sign I suppose. So I offer up 2 different days to go get ice cream and take her mind off of things. Well she doesn’t text me back until the next night (says she didn’t see my text until now) and says she has (family thing) and (family thing) but appreciates the offer. No alternative day suggested or any hint that she actually wants to see me again.

I originally thought she was trying to let me down easy which is why I stopped contacting her. Then she texts me again, but still doesn't seem incredibly interested in meeting up. I know she's a busy girl but if you want to see someone again you'd think you'd at least offer up another day that works for you?

So that's where I'm at. Mixed signals. Does she want to see me again? If not, what's the motive behind contacting me again?