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This is a statement from long ago, Jewish Bible. Do you agree with it?

That is, can you genuinely forgive someone without doing harm to them in return, or without giving it to your "god"?
I've asked another question about forgiveness and a lot of people indicated they'd have a hard time forgiving or won't. So I wondered if this feels true:)?

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful of things. But it is oh so not easy to come to grips with. Where does one draw the strength from to forgive? How does it feel to forgive, or not to forgive?

People can hurt each other easily, for selfish reasons and their own wounds. Like:
MotherF@#er raped you in college, and you lost 15 years of your life.
Your boss totally F'd you... on purpose (they do that)! You lose... job, retirement, house, maybe family.
The guy/girl you loved... they hurt you terribly, totally F'd your life! F'in hell man!
The Govt official screwed you bad and laughed about it on the news, and you lost your business! You went bankrupt!
In essence, these are all corruptions of power, selfishness, and lack of love! Ok!!!

Oh but that Universe... by twist of fate years later, you have power over their offspring! OOOOO
Maybe you are the Sargent in the Army commanding them, and you have to pick someone for the dangerous front position? Tempting..
Or you are the boss, and you can make this subordinate suffer! No consequences, at least earlth
Or you see them in a dangerous place... like trapped in a car on side of the road, ready to catch fire. They are gonna die, unless you interject to help call for help... else they die! Nobody would know though if you drive on...

Dig deep... how do you respond? You're options:

A) F! ck em over, that's life bi#ch! (Explain how this would feel). Is there a better way?
B) Ignore your feelings.
C) Forgive: Engage with them, explain what happened that they deeply hurt you, and that you will treat them the same as anyone else. Explain how you'd feel and where you get the strength.
D) Other

My girlfriend and I have dated for 3 years now. But we broke up pretty quickly due to a religious difference, but it wasn't long before we got back together. Her parents hold hostility towards me for not being apart of their religion and for how I handed myself when we broke up. We both didn't handle it well, and I completely stopped being involved and it really hurt her.
Anyway, she's called me upset because of her parents and how hostile they are about the relationship. After talking with my friends, and getting the approval from my girlfriend, I sent this message to her mom;
Hello, I know you're upset with me, and rightfully so. I just wanted to say I'm sorry for how I handled things with your daughter. I had begun to fall in love with her and didn't know the best thing to do. But she has been incredible and given me another chance. I'm not looking for forgiveness, but I want you to know I'm sorry. Your daughter is the best thing to ever come into my life.

But her mom never responded and was confrontational with my girlfriend about the message. Was this not ok? The only reason I sent a message is because they live out of state.