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Hi, my ex girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me a week ago, a whole lot has happened the past few months and stuff got really complicated. Basically we live in different countries but visit each other regularly, we were engaged until she broke up with me back in April and that was really my fault, I got jealous and needed reassurances all the time and made a lot of accusations. (She did confess to lying about a lot in the earlier stages of our relationship). Anyway, things got rough after that and I started therapy to get rid of my "demons" and I heard nothing from her for 2 weeks. She contacted me one day as she was upset about something and we decided to try again. I paid for her to fly to Dublin (from the states) and I met her there from UK. The week was amazin apart from a huge fight over a text she got from a guy she apparently had no contact with. She left happy and we spent all our time on the phone together, then she dumped me again because my friends were accusing her of treating me bad etc. again I heard nothin until she sent my sis a message sayin she was pregnant and its mine. We started talkin again n things were goin really well, she kept tellin me how much she loves me and wants me etc. all was good until last week. We lost the baby and she started acting strange (understandably). She called me the night of the miscarriage and said she'd call me tomorrow, well I never heard from her again & instead she deleted everythin tht involved me and is on Facebook 24/7 (my friend is her friend on there). Our mutual friend thinks she is seein someone new but there's not much to suggest she is other than she suddenly disappeared from fb for 48 hrs recently (although she did spend a day on a boat with a new "friend". the reason she stopped talking to me was because I wouldn't tell her who I was going to London with when the reason I was going was to plan a surprise for her (London is her favourite place). Any idea what could be goin on? 10 days without contact now.

Let's say the guy you're dating was previously in a shitty relationship about a year before you two met. His ex was manipulative and abusive, she would guilt him and threaten to inflict self harm whenever he had tried breaking up with her, and even threatened to commit suicide the final time he attempted breaking up with her. He didn't let her threats get to him that time, and went through with the break up. Of course, his ex's threats were bullshit and she never tried anything. She would go on to try to explain that it "wasn't her, but her depression and anxiety" that caused her to treat him the way she did. Several months later, after he had cut off all contact with her, she messages him and begs him to come back into her life. But just as friends, because she knows he would never take her back. She asks for this because she's depressed, suicidal, etc. and feels like he is the only person who still kinda cares. So, begrudgedly, he decides to be "friends" with her ("friends" meaning he just talks her out of suicide every time she has one of her episodes) because he would feel guilty if he didn't.

NOW, let's say that the guy you're talking to is trying to find a way to cut his ex off completely without causing her to do something stupid and possibly fatal. How would you feel if he were to open up to you about everything and told you this? Would you see him differently? Would you still want to date him, or would you break up with him? Would you help him drop her?

I ask this because that guy in all of that I just typed up is me, and that's the situation I'm in right now. I've been talking to this girl for about 5 months now, and it's starting to get serious. Should it turn into an actual relationship, I do not want this baggage to ruin it for me. So I'm trying to get rid of it before it gets to that.