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Why does my Ex hate me? Is it possible to be friends with your ex?

I've always wondered if it's possible to be friends with an ex. My ex was maybe my first love - real love.

I met him 4 years ago and felt like we belonged, two years later I met him again randomly while dating his friend. When his friend and I broke up, he chased me like crazy. I kept rejecting him but then I finally gave in.

We had the best relationship, we were soooo close. We had sex all the time, we talked 24/7 I could see myself marrying this man.

And then one day I found out he was sleeping with someone else. Was it all fake? But I knew it couldn't be, we were extremely close. I thought maybe he slipped up. So I forgave him.

I had serious trust issues with him, a part of me hated him but I stayed I worked through it and got over it.

Then I found out he cheated again.
So I told him it was over. He texted me periodically the day we broke up. And then I told him to stop texting me, and he just switched off. He called me a bitch, he told me that he was going to post naked pictures of me online, he kept attacking me.

I was mad at him, but I never knew he could switch so easily.

Then I felt like I did something wrong wfen though he was the one who cheated on me.

I was so heartbroken that someone I once loved so deeply was able to switch so quickly.

He then got married 3 months later -

Can someone give me clarity as a guy how do you just shut off?

I'm a girl, he's a guy. We're police officers. We've been best friends & work partners for 7 years. He's been with me through a divorce, a near fatal car accident & then the birth of my child, I've been with him through a divorce, the depression that followed & recently, a marriage. He's the most loyal, honest, moral man i know, until now. The thing is, we've always been respectful, he's always been attractive to me but I never acknowledged it & he did the same. For 7 years we were perfect sibling like friends. Well, last year he was drinking & we were texting, as usual & he told me he used to think about marrying me & that he's been attracted to me since the day we met. He began to name times, conversations & events that were significant to him. He told me he wished we would have gotten together & he regrets not speaking up. I was but overwhelmingly flattered. I confessed that I felt the same. Since then we have engaged in a fantasy "what if" relationship, complete with sexting. The issue im having is this, he remarried his ex wife a week after he confessed to me. They are trying to have a baby. I am in a ltr with a man who is not very good to me but I've never cheated on him or considered it until now. My best friend wants to have an affair with me. I want him, I would love to be with him because we love each other & want each other so much. I dont know how we could be detached though & I'm not sure who I'm more concerned about, him or me. I realize how selfish this is, we both agree that the right outweighs the wrong. If we do this am I going to lose my best friend? If we don't do this will he find someone else? I'm confused, kind of.