Search Results: mixed messages

Okay. Here's the situation. We first met through a summer job and ended up getting along well. The summer job was only about 3 weeks, and a few days ago was my last shift. On the last day, he asked if I wanted to "hang out" downtown. I said yes. Later on, I found out he actually had a girlfriend. At that point, I was confused as to whether he was interested in me romantically or just as a friend. He was sending me mixed signals. Yesterday, we hung out. But it was AWKWARD. We for some reason had not a lot to talk about. At some points I had a feeling that he regretted asking me to hang out.

Fast forward to today, I messaged him saying that I had fun (kind of a lie, I was nervous the entire time). He messaged back saying that we should hang out again.

BOYS, WHAT IS THIS GUYS DEAL?

OK if it were me. I would probably mean something like ' I want to be with him but take things slow, maybe be friends for a while first, or just date and go real slow... '

But i'm not him he's not me, and i do not want to assume. He was pretty nervous and unsure when saying that, so I do not really want to force him to break things down it atm. I might ask him about it in a while from now.

Do you think is it just a way of saying back off?

Should I leave him alone, or ask about it in a few weeks?

Things have been confusing between us, timing really bad. He asked me out and (things happening over the year and a half, i have not been perfect nor he but trying and it is too long to explain but it was frustrating and finally I was not sure if he was playing games) I finally just got tired of mixed messages and asked him what he wanted.

by the way, I am happy to take things slow be friends etc. So this is not a problem for me and I have no need to pressure I just want to understand, it is confusing.