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Met a guy at work who would make me laugh and I found very attractive. We'd flirt all the time but he had an on and off relationship with a girl he'd been with for 4 years. They had a baby and ended the relationship, had a one night stand and had another child.
Before I went away for holiday, he had started visiting where I work after having leave for an op. he was flirting with me heavily and took my number.
When I went away I had a bad experience with a guy which wasn't consented. When I got back I wasn't myself. Sex wasn't very important to me.
We met several times, he lives quite a while away so I would stay over but nothing happened till the 3rd night and it was all on my terms. To begin with it was just sex and I knew that. But it grew and we became more intimate in other ways. He told me he loved me very early which worried me but after giving him a chance to take it back I didn't think about it much.
I realised majority of the relationship was staying indoors eating junk food watching films and listening to him talk about his ex. It was hard because they were still in contact as they'd had children. However I felt like I was a shrink rather than his gf.
8 months later I decided to go on a break so he could get his thoughts together - his ex is on cocaine and is sleeping around with the kids in her place. He had every reason to be worried.
Recently we met up to talk as the break wasn't helping due to is still working together. It was clear he's not over his ex, which was an issue raised early in the relationship. He didn't know much about me. I asked him questions which he couldn't answer. Yet he was saying everything is been feeling for the last few months. It was confusing.
My worry is that I'm a rebound and that even though he sometimes seems like he cares, I mean nothing to him.
I suggested friends with benefits after sleeping with him (after which we had a deep conversation) as I don't want to lose him as a friend but I don't want to be fucked ov

So this guy. We work together (not in the same office) but when we met we flirted like crazy. Texting, face booking each other.

Go ahead about 6 months and we are really close! Still flirt like absolute crazy and even sext at times.
He cares a lot about me because his actions say so. I was having a bad day, and he IM another lady I work with in the same office as me, he said to her "go and give Her a hug from me" and then he messaged me and said I hope you're okay. This has happened a few times.

Basically. My feelings for this guy are strong.
I know he doesn't really want anything serious... I think. But if he cares that much about me, would he have feelings for me?

I have a situation that I really need a guy's advice on.

I'm at uni and I really like my lecturer (I'm in my 30s so no age issues). I know that he liked me. Let's call him John. He was making an effort to get to talk to me around the uni, he was often around where I was and he tried to flirt with me on several occasions etc. However, at the time he was doing all this this I was already liking someone else and wasn't sure if I liked John or not at that time.

The guy I liked was his friend and John knew about it. His friend used to flirt and be really friendly with me a while ago but stopped when John started to show that he was interested in me. I felt bad that his friend had stopped flirting with me as it felt like a rejection and things became awkward between myself and the other guy. I was also upset over some other personal health stuff too. I wasn't upset because I was really really into his friend but just because I liked him as a person and felt sad that the friendliness between us was lost and things were awkward. His friend had started doing stuff like sitting with his back to me and turning his head away from me which felt very hurtful.

John saw me upset and came to assume that it was something to do with his friend and I think he was left with the impression that I was cut up over his friend. We weren't directly verbally communicating at the time and I didn't have the opportunity to explain to him the actual reasons why I was upset. During this time I saw John but only around other people in the public areas, he tried to joke about it all and make funny jokes about how I could have fancied his friend when he was much more sexy than him etc.

At this time he was still making it clear he was interested. However I didn't feel right to just go from his friend straight to him. I didn't want John to feel like I was just going to him because his friend wasn't interested anymore. I was also still just feeling low because of my own personal st