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After a long split with my girlfriend of two years, she started seeing someone else and I found out. Since that time I tried to be as normal as possible, saying to myself I'm better than this. Since the split there have been many hot and cold times, and I feel like neither of us wants to make the first move to be friends or more for fear of rejection from the other like a power play.

We also work in the same offices, I'm also sure she isn't seeing the other guy now though they appear to be on friendly terms unlike us, which I can't explain because apart from the split which I made easy for her, I don't recall we ever fell out.

The atmosphere between us is very tense, though civil.

Recently she has started to pay a keen interest in me and any woman I speak to. Some have even been getting dirty looks of her, though I'm sure she doesn't realize she is doing it.

i have never shouted or screamed at her about her letting me down, in fact I wished her well and left her to it. I wanted my dignity.

It is clear even to a novice like me in the game stakes at the moment she has suddenly started to almost be somewhere I am or may be on a daily basis, a few months ago I will be honest this would have been me. There was a period a few months ago I wouldn't even come across her, now its almost a daily event, though words are not exchanged, its weird in the fact she sort of pretends I'm not there and I do the same with her, but we are both fully aware of each other. Very difficult to explain.

She has been trying to work out I believe if I am seeing anyone at the moment, she can't ask anyone as they wouldn't tell her I know that.

I'm a big boy and I have been out with people before and it ends you move on, but I really believe with this girl, it is something different and it the words of Meatloaf "it just won't quit".

The question I have is what do I about it, yes I have feelings for her and I believe she has feelings for me.

Do I carry on as I am being cool, the challenge I guess, do I make an effort to be a friend and see how it goes, do I make a peace offering or do I simply say how I feel ?