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As I have stated before, when I got over being shy, I asked men out. I did it with he idea I could be told no. Some did yes--some did no. If turned down I didn't complain bitterly that I was in the "friend-zone", or how I was wronged or entitled to that persons love.

I have always understood that we are all free will beings--love can't be hoisted upon us or bought through dinners or trinkets (well, you can't buy a man or a woman of substance that way).

Not to say it wasn't disappointing, but I always understood that they had that right, just as I had the right to ask no more or no less.

But often, mostly from males, I hear complaints about a woman just wanting to be their "friend" like this is just the worst fate on the planet. How about accepting the woman's valid decision to not take the relationship there and move on?

One guy on here was talking about how he liked a girl that he has known for years and doesn't want to tell her his feelings changed to love because he didn't want to hear the "You're a nice guy lets be friends speech."

Lets say he did open up and that occurred?

Is it the end of the world? Is she the only woman in the world?

Sure, it hurts, but life goes on.

In these scenarios men tend to act victimized, as if they have been wronged.

They have not. They have made a choice and the person made theirs.

That is all there is to it really.

How about respecting a free will beings choice?

How about not taking it personally or bad mouthing the person?

How about showing a bit more maturity?

I mean--we should be able to decide whom we love, not be guilt tripped into it by people who appear to believe that the world owes us everything our hearts desire.