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i've known him for 6 months. met through friends, he asked about me and i asked about him after we met. so we both kind of knew the other was interested when we began hanging out but we still went slow.

he was walking me home last night and before i left he took my hand, we looked at each other then he kissed me.

then he told me hed been interested for a long time and was hoping we could get to know each other, i said we are doing that.
he said yeah but like be together.
i asked if he meant to date, he blushed and said yes. date.
(i dont get why kissing is easier than just saying he wants to date)

anyhow we walked for a while and i put my hand on his arm and he tightened up and kind of moved away, i just kept walking thinking i imagined it. when we got to my house he kissed me.
then i hugged him more bc i wanted to know if hed be ok with it but also bc i wanted to.
he did not hug back and stiffened up then put his hands on my shoulder -basically pushing me away while holding on, confusing- and told me to call him , and asked if i would.
I said yes, but i was really confused. i am.

i do think he genuinely likes me, how can i date him if i can't touch him. and why can he kiss but can't touch otherwise. i dont understand. and even if i did, im not sure that would help. i dont see how this can work. its not as if he was trying not to move too fast sexually, i mean it was just a hug plus i hugged him so how can he be worried, so it must be he does not like touching or is uncomfortable- but why would he want t date if he does not like touch? he should do hook ups or friends with benefits. im assuming hell want sex, hell have to touch me then, so i dont get it.


he's done things like touch my hand or my arm or my forehead before he said anything about dating, its like he got worse after. i dont get it.

does anyone relate to his behavior? or any suggestions.