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for quite a while now I been noticing that both my counselor and psychiatrist have been asking me in every visit if i'm dating anyone at the moment. not sure what this is all about but I'm guessing they are perhaps asking this to see if my paranoia towards humanity or self esteem has improved in any way.

nevertheless no matter how good my mental health gets I still do not see any point in dating. to me dating is no different or perhaps just a water down hypocritical version of prostitution. you know all you're basically doing while dating is taking a woman out and feeding her with your own money just to hope that she either falls in love with you or at least have sex with you after you're done feeding her.

besides that I also think that just like marriage and relationships dating itself is very one sided because the girl is always the one that gets all the victory out of it. she gets fed her favorite food for free, she has sex and many other things that will benefit her in the long run. hell my past experiences are not helping me out either, not sure if its PTSD but I remember the girl who almost won the title as my first girlfriend was a total sociopath that scarred me. the second one who actually did become my first girlfriend was a drama queen who wasn't relationship material. since then I never met a woman who is actually relationship or even dating material at all.

till then again I really dont see any point in dating. I see so many negativity that revolves around dating nowadays that I dont I feel is just not worth the effort; whether i'm mentally healthy or not

We both came out of failed marriages. We fell madly in love. 18 months later we were engaged and shortly thereafter due to a challenge in her life, she and her kids moved in with me and my kids. Immediately the beautiful relationship began to fade. Merging two lives when you are older can be hard, but merging the lives of the kids as well was harder. She went to counseling. She asked me to go and willingly went with her. She asked me to go find a counselor for myself while she continued with hers. I was slow to do that - always focused on whatever fire needed put out, she observed. Last week she told me she wanted to break up - too much hassle from my kids and too little time from me. She is in the process of moving out. I don't want her to go - I love her. I've really only had two long term relationships. I've started counseling. Logically, giving her the space to move out and move on is the right thing to do. ... but I love her and don't want her to leave. I'm heart broken and struggling to do the right thing for the one I love. What should I do?