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I no longer talk to this guy so please do not feel the need to lecture me on him.

I was friends with benefits with a guy and at first it was fine, normal sex and nothing out of the ordinary. Shortly after we started hooking up he moved but had come back to visit and we hooked up but it was like nothing before, he was VERY bossy and only cared about himself, he would go very rough in me and it hurt badly and he did not care at all it was hurting me he just looked at me and said "Shhhh" and continued to be rough, then first when we were in the shower he just looked at me and pointed down to his junk, indicating he wanted a bj, i thought it was very rude ! like im not a dog don't give me commandments. Also when we took a break during sex he wanted oral while laying down so I did it and then he just started watching t. v as if I were not even there ! flipping through channels and making comments and laughing and the most disturbing part was that I started watching tv because he was too and he looked at me and said "Are you watching t. v?" In a you better not tone and i was very shocked and scared and said no because it seemed like he was going to hit me or something if i said yes and i stopped and continued giving oral and he didn't say a word and kept on watching t. v

After that I did not speak to him again and was going to get my brother to fight him but I decided it's not worth the drama.

I am 26 and my boyfriend is 22. Coming this March, we have been together for 3 years. During our 3 years, it has been very rough. In the beginning, I've dealt with him calling me names, screaming at the top of his lungs/ in my face/ punching walls/ throwing things/, cheating on me, creating secret accounts by asking other women for sex, forming relationships online with other girls (where he'd stay up from the day until 6am with them & ignore me), calling other girls and prostitutes to meet with them (but would never follow through with it), and lying. Now, I would have left, but I stayed because I understood he was insecure about himself since he told me he was, and I gave him another chance when he said he snapped out of it and realized how much he was hurting me. He promised all this would change and it'd be in the past. We were working on trust again. I have not cheated, not lied, not deceived, and not have been unfaithful.

One of our reoccurring problems, is that he hides stuff from me and it always has to do with other women. Whether it be flirting or visiting sites. For a long time, HE STOPPED doing these things and our trust was almost restored UNTIL yesterday. We share a phone. I opened it and all these nude pictures of women popped up in the private browser. He forgot to close it. I was upset he felt the need to hide it and what else could he be hiding? He's always "tired" and we hardly have sex or he says I am too loud and he doesn't want to wake his parents. I don't send him sexy pictures anymore; he tells me not to because he doesn't want to get his icloud hacked like other people. It's confusing. He tells me he doesn't have sexy pictures of me so he needs to look at other nude women to get off. It hurts since he always says I am the only person he jerks off to when I have proof that is a lie. The only pictures he has of me are normal smiling pictures and he told me he's a visual person. I feel like I can't trust him anymore. It's old. Help?