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This girl and I have been in somewhat of a relationship for 2 years. When we first met she was dating a married man (her first love) She seemed really into me and we had sex a few times. She didn't want to leave him and every time we had sex she would feel quilty for cheating on him. I was getting tired of her coming and leaving my life, so I meet another girl. We became friends and would hang out and talk about our relationship problems. Eventually we has sex and started to be a couple somewhat. At first she wasn't wanting a relationship because her last boyfriend was abusive. When she finally wanted to commit to a relationship I wasn't ready because the original girl keeps coming and going but I feel that she has commitment issues The second girl I was talking about was in a relationship from 15-23 so she has no problems being committed. The first girl had a relationship with the married guy for about 3 years but she cheated on him I think 4 Times. The married man is way older than her I am older as well but his is way older. I think he ruined her view on relationships. Basically she feels that sex is the only thing in a relationship now. I look at her like a victim. I think about her too much. I have found a great girl but my feelings for the first girl are a lot stronger than they are for the second girl. I really despise cheating and I don't want to be in a position where I would cheat on anyone. Its hard because my mind says go with the second one my heart says fight for the first one. The first one said the problem is that I live at home and don't have a driver's license. I have had some set backs because of drugs but I'm getting out of the hole. She is the reason I stopped using and made me realize I was lonely. When we talk she leads me to believe she wants a relatioship but then she's gone for a week then back for a week. So does she like me but afraid to commit ot is she just nuts?

The funny thing is that in the Movie, they ended up becoming a couple, as if the movie answered its own question: Friends with benefits doesn't work!

I feel like its a joke for people who either want to use each other repeatedly, or are afraid to make a commitment.

I have a female friend who feels that she's in a friends with benefits relationship. But the guy she's sleeping with let me know that in his mind, if it weren't for the sex, they wouldn't be friends at all! Incidentally, she's quite attractive.

Do you guys agree? Comments are appreciated!