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I don't want to be one of those girls who overanalyzes things (I know, I'm a woman, too late), but I really can't read this guy at all.

So, we met about three months ago (near the start of the school year). He's a graduating senior this year, and I'm a sophomore, so there's an age difference of 19 to 21. He's a professional acting major, and I'm a stage management major, so while we share the same major and school (theatre), we have very different concentrations/fields.

We see each other often, and I've hung out with him a few times outside of our work or class. He's very encouraging of me and is constantly saying things like, "You're so insightful" and "You're so good at ______" (whatever it is we're doing). I've had a huge crush on him since a few weeks after us meeting, but figured he was totally out of my league. But a couple things have made me hesitate.

Firstly, he has an issue with complimenting others, or so I've heard him say. He makes a point of telling me when I look nice, and will often do so in a very...attention-grabbing kind of a way. For example, turning to a mutual friend and saying something like, "Doesn't she always look beautiful?"

Secondly, he's a very physically affection person. With everyone, not just me. Which is why I'm not sure how to feel when he hugs me from behind, pulls me close to cuddle with him intimately on the couch (my back pressed against his chest), or when he kisses me on the forehead. He's done it four times, and it's just odd for me because I've never had a guy kiss me there before. I hear the forehead kiss can mean many things.

The first time was at a party, and it was kind of like a "goodbye" because I just caught him on his way out. It had been a pretty stressful night (stupid drama he had to deal with for his roommate's sake) and he just smiled down at me, kissed me on the forehead, and left. I chalked it up to him having been drinking.

The second, we were working on something backstage. I was super distracted (as a stage manager, I had a million people trying to talk to me, ask me things, etc.) and he stops me, took my head in his hands, and leaned down to kiss me on the side of the forehead out of nowhere. I didn't have much time to react. I just blinked a couple times, then turned away to do my job, but it really made my heart stop.

The third time, I was working on the computer. He came up behind me, so I tilted my head up and he leaned down to press a succession of really quick kisses on my forehead. Then earlier today, the fourth time, he was leaving to work on something, and as he was getting up, he leaned over to kiss the top of my head.

He likes to grab my shoulders, he's constantly teaching me, giving me weird looks in class, trying to make me laugh, etc. I told my friend I think he just thinks of me as a little sister, but she insists otherwise. So I thought I'd ask for some guys' opinions.

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I don't feel jealous. My boyfriend has always told me how he'd be jealous and punch any other guy that tried to kiss me. My boyfriend is also very attractive and there have been other girls that like him, but he's veryyy loyal. He introduces me to all of his girl friends and wants us to become good friends. Though when I talk to some of them, it's very obvious they're smitten with my boyfriend, despite the fact that he seems completely oblivious.

I've pointed it out to him that certain girls actually had a huge crush on him (in a teasing playful manner), and he got all blushy, smiley, and said "nooo, they're weird, and anyway I have the best most beautiful girlfriend in the world". Then I'd continue to tease him about what a girl magnet heartbreaker he is. He liked that, and was even more affectionate and sweet than usual afterwards.

It just worries me that I've never felt jealousy, even upon meeting the girls that obviously have feelings for my boyfriend and probably tried to flirt with him at one point. I feel no jealousy when he points out another pretty girl to me either on the street or online. I think jealousy is an ugly emotion, and I'm actually sort of glad that I don't get jealous...but then again, if my love were really real, wouldn't I be a little more selfish about him?

If I'm really honest, I wouldn't even care if he liked another girl...or even kissed her...as long as he liked me best, told me about it and decided he liked my kisses better as a result of doing it. I've told him this, and he told me that even though there are lots of attractive girls in the world, his kisses and flirting would always be reserved for me alone.

We've been together for almost four years now. Is it because he constantly proves that he's utterly loyal...or maybe I'm arrogant or something... that I don't really believe anyone else could be a threat? In fact, I'm sort of always interested in what girls like him as a chance to compete with them, learn new little things that impress him, and keep my charm skills sharp.

The thing is - it makes me feel sort of special when he acts a little jealous, and I wonder if I'm offending him somehow by never acting jealous.

So what do you guys think: do you need to feel a little healthy jealousy to prove that you genuinely love someone? Do boyfriends like it when their girls act a little jealous?