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I've been talking to this guy for a about a month now. He's unlike any other guy I've talked to before and is very respectful and kind-hearted. I don't usually date because of how bad I've been treated in the past (which he knows about) but he treats me like a princess when we're together in person. We're both always so busy but he's even busier than I am so I hardly see him. I haven't seen him in over a week and he hardly texts me back anymore, now that he's further into his graduate studies. He said he was too busy to hang out a couple of days ago and said "how about tomorrow instead?" so I said sure. The next day I didn't hear from him at all, I was pretty upset about it but didn't want to come off too strong by telling him. He finally sent me a text later that night saying he was busy but didn't at all address blowing me off or apologize. As if it never happened. But just when I think he's lost interest he'll say or do something (online though..) that will throw me off again. When we started talking he was really communicative and asked me out a lot, but for over a week now I've been the only one really trying to initiate conversation or to get him to take a break to hangout. Not that I think it makes a difference but he's introduced me to his friends already who get along with me so well, and his family knows about me already. I give him a lot of space and even stayed silent all weekend thinking he'd message me to see what was up, but nope, not a single text or call. He is all about taking things slow and we've even discussed "where we stand" which is that we're just getting to know each other and going on dates but not in a relationship. When we had this talk he said he was so relieved that I didn't see us as a couple yet.. I think he may be scared of commitment. I can't help but to feel I'm over thinking this though because although his behavior & responsiveness has changed a lot, we still aren't really "in a relationship" just dating. What are your opinions?

My boyfriend and I met almost 6 months ago. He had been married and has 4 children with his ex. I have two children of my own. His breakup with his ex was a bad one. Children are caught in between. I try to explain to him that it's important to keep the children out of this; that they do not need to know what is going on between the two of them. Things seem to have gone better between him and his ex. Which, to me, is a great thing for the children. He's been asking me to move in with him, which at first was a huge no no for me. Then, my feelings about it has changed. We get along great. I'm totally in love with this man. He's a wonderful, caring and loving boyfriend. My kids love him. The only thing is, for me, If i'm going to invest myself, my heart, raising his four children, bringing my children into this relationship, i want some kind of commitment. His answer is, "It's too fast". He says that he's not ready for it. As I explain to him, I don't want this now or next year. Hell... I'm not saying i want to get married in 2 months. I simply want to know if down the road that we could make a commitment. His answer is.. he's now confused. I don't believe it's that hard of a question to answer. I'm broken by his answer. But thank God, I would rather lose him than be with someone that doesn't love me enough to give themselves completly to me. I would raise his 4 kids but he cannot commit to me? Am I stupid? He loves me enough for me to raise his children but not enough to commit to me. MMmmm. I'm thinking. Please tell me what you think. Am I the only one who sees this as a big RED FLAG? I understand he was married. It may scare him but I'm not his ex. I LOVE HIM with all my heart but I'm simply not that stupid. GUYS, please tell me why you would say that to a woman that you say you love. Fill me in. The sex is great. The relationship is great. I love his children, they love me. My kids love them. What is the issue?