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I met a guy on a dating site, he's 8 years older than me, which isn't a problem for me. He's been married once and has 2 kids. He's incredibly handsome, and has been very respectful to me. We've swapped photos, we text and have talked on the phone once. We have been chatting for about 2-3 weeks now and we've both mentioned how we'd love to meet. He has such a fantastic sense of humor, i love people who makes me laugh, not to mention we have the same sense of humor, like creepy jokes too soon.. lol. Though the only cons I can think of is he's one) an inch shorter than me 2) he lives in a different state. Now we're only about 4-4.5 hours away from each other... but that's still a good hop and skip. Granted my ex was 1.5hrs from me, at one point 2.5 and we made in 2 years. But I'm nervous about traveling that far to meet someone, I do own a gun and pepper spray lol but I don't think I'd need to use either.. I say id travel bc I've always wanted to go to a certain area of the state he lives in, I live in the middle of nowhere with nothing close by lol. Also, about his humor.. we had just swapped phone numbers close to Thanksgiving and I texted him, i got a reply, then a message from another number asking why I was texted her husband.. and they had 5 kids together... then I got a pic of a woman, a man and him.. saying they were his extended family and had to break me in right.. which I found hilarious after the finding our it was a joke. He said he had no idea until after the message was sent, they said his jaw dropped.. but anyways, he told them about me.. and a buddy at work as well he told me today he showed him a pic I had sent him this morning. Any advise on meeting, and experiences with this? Did it work for you?

So these days most people sleep together first, or within weeks of meeting someone. Things happen too soon in some cases an the stages of courting and truly getting. to know the person doesn't seem. to happen.

People tend to learn about eachothers bodies before their minds. Fair enough to those who want and have FWBs. Thats their choice but I am talking about dating and enjoying getting. to know someone.

Guys I meet after one date I know I dont know them enough for sex or anything else. I do kiss early on but other stuff doesn't need to be rushed. Most guys seem. to have crazy sex drives and no self control but thats a whole other issue. Thing is if someone wants sex after date two its very obvious they are not after a relationship or any commitment.

I have only met one guy who was patient and decent my first ever bf. An he was just 17 when I was 19. Guys I met after him have all been wasting. my time. Saying they love me for sex, saying they want to move in to get sex, wanting me to sleep over for sex. Had many dates but only with my first bf. An a guy cooked for me one time but even he couldnt. control himself.

I understand humans are sexual beings but why the need to rush it. Guys I've met up with aged between 22-32 have all been wanting sex straightaway but claimed they want a gf. As soon as I meet a guy I dont feel like having sex and do not feel that until I know about them and spend time with them but guys are visual an feel it quickly right?

Out of the 8 guys I've met 7 were too impatient and one was totally patient. So I am uncertain as to whether iwill find a guy with a little bit of patience. I am talking 2-3months max.

He's been with her for over a year and says he's bored, unsatisfied, etc. He keeps saying bad stuff about her and that he's sick of her and wants it to be over. They've broken up before but got back together. I feel like he's trying to get me to tell him to break up with her but I it's none of my business. I do love him but he's with her so he needs to figure that out for himself. I gave him my advice and said if he's not happy he should do what he needs to do to be happy and why act like you're married to someone and can't leave when you're just 18 and are going off to college soon anyway? He said he's going to break it off after graduation if not before and they've already had "the talk" and she's fine with it. It sounds like their relationship is dead or dying but he won't pull the trigger for whatever reason. I think he's maybe not sure if I want to be with him like that and he doesn't want to be alone. Not the best reason to stay in an unsatisfying relationship! He never says anything positive about her and compares me to her, saying how much better I treat him, etc. He often says I sound like his gf and I made his bday by making him his fave cheesecake. He said he was going to tell the gf he was too tired for date night and to not bother coming over to give him bday sex. He's joked about us being a couple and talks about sex stuff with me every day. I know all about what they do. They only see each other once a week for date (hook up) night at his house (he says he's bored with that too) and, of course, she gets to be his date for dances and official stuff. She's not at our school, so I'm basically his school gf but she gets all the benefits, such as they are. But he's said he loves me in some way.

I can't take this much longer. I do love him and would like the chance to see what we could be before we go away to college next year. I'm not trying to marry him or have his babies but I would like to be able to be open about how I feel about him.