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i've known him for 6 months. met through friends, he asked about me and i asked about him after we met. so we both kind of knew the other was interested when we began hanging out but we still went slow.

he was walking me home last night and before i left he took my hand, we looked at each other then he kissed me.

then he told me hed been interested for a long time and was hoping we could get to know each other, i said we are doing that.
he said yeah but like be together.
i asked if he meant to date, he blushed and said yes. date.
(i dont get why kissing is easier than just saying he wants to date)

anyhow we walked for a while and i put my hand on his arm and he tightened up and kind of moved away, i just kept walking thinking i imagined it. when we got to my house he kissed me.
then i hugged him more bc i wanted to know if hed be ok with it but also bc i wanted to.
he did not hug back and stiffened up then put his hands on my shoulder -basically pushing me away while holding on, confusing- and told me to call him , and asked if i would.
I said yes, but i was really confused. i am.

i do think he genuinely likes me, how can i date him if i can't touch him. and why can he kiss but can't touch otherwise. i dont understand. and even if i did, im not sure that would help. i dont see how this can work. its not as if he was trying not to move too fast sexually, i mean it was just a hug plus i hugged him so how can he be worried, so it must be he does not like touching or is uncomfortable- but why would he want t date if he does not like touch? he should do hook ups or friends with benefits. im assuming hell want sex, hell have to touch me then, so i dont get it.


he's done things like touch my hand or my arm or my forehead before he said anything about dating, its like he got worse after. i dont get it.

does anyone relate to his behavior? or any suggestions.

Well my friends with benefits is acting funny lately it’s like he’s avoiding me but still trying to keep me interested. He started talking to his ex again or at least associating with him. I’m annoyed because I don’t want my number to go up and I genuinely enjoyed being his friend. But it’s like I’ll ask to hang out and instead of saying no he will say “ I’ll see” and make excuses for me not to give him head or have she’s yet will text me the next day acting like he wants to have a conversation with him about what I’m doin like he felt cares. Last time we hung out he acted more affectionate than just friends with benefits and gave me this look like he actually was falling for me more. Then the week after I see he’s having Thanksgiving with his ex and then he starts acting funny towards me yet keeps trying to keep in contact with me he won’t let 3 days go by without talking to me. He also said I have him the best head and was the best sexual experience he had. Yet when I try to still get “freaky” with him he won’t.

We got into a fight and I was being crazy ( we are friends with benefits but a little bit more than that ) he said he doesn’t wanna talk to me sometimes because I act psycho sometimes I apologized and said I was sorry and then I said I’d leave him alone. Then a day went by and I thought w weren’t gonna talk but then he called me asked to hang out then I declined. I then texted him next day sayin I thought u didn’t want to talk to me and he said only when I act crazy he doesn’t. So I asked if I could call him me explain and he said yes but on phone he sounded annoyed a little so I was by we then made plans to hang out the next day. The next day came me I asked what he was doing and he never answered. So I usually would blow his phone up but I just left him alone. ? What ups? I know I was bad an I really regret it because I secretly like him. Why even call me after I tell say I’m Not gonna talk to him?