Search Results: low self confidence

Be honest and tell me what I should do?

I gained a bunch of weight recently; for the first time ever. I had nasal surgery from a life of football/rugby/boxing/jiu jitsu. I couldn't exercise much after and am overweight for the first time ever. I was confident and have hooked up with hot girls in my past.

Now I feel self conscious and don't know if it's pointless to pursue pretty girls until I get in shape or if I should still go for it?

I feel my being confident and funny/charming int he past has helped more than how I looked but I don't know if girls are superficial to this point. I feel guys that are in great shape/really good looking or tall "get more interviews" but not necessarily "the job". Like you have to prove yourself when talking to a girl. but I may be wrong. If so how do I get my confidence back?

I'm 5'10 and was 200 pounds (of muscle but not crazy ripped). I feel i'm stronger, still a solid athlete (won a tennis tournament recently, but am 260 and def. have a stomach/signs of being overweight. I've never had low self confidence in this way and never was overweight. I tried online dating but didn't get many responses and stopped after a week.

I have low self confidence. I'm trying to improve it and I think it is a battle I am winning. Slowly but surely. Anyway one of the ways i'm trying to improve myself is walking with correct posture and looking straight ahead as opposed to looking down and hunching. The last few days I've had people stare at me with blank face. I never know what to do and end up mumbling a "hello".

How do I approach this type of situation better and why would someone stare at someone else?