Search Results: i dont know if i can trust him

I dont want to sabotage their friendship, it's just when we hang out all together he gives her a lot of attention, even though she is a nice girl and has a boyfriend her self, i just want him to respect my thoughts and fears, i can't control this jealousy as much as i want to, and it hurts seeing my man giving attention to another woman, i trust him more than anything else in this world and i know for a fact that he would never cheat on me, but i am still jealous and i want to tell him but i am scared that he will think im insecure and stupid...

I think often when women are trying to solve a relationship parable, people just tell them useless things like be nice or open or pleasant or supportive encouraging etc. its not helpful. im not waiting for something to happen. i want to fix things, i just dont know -what- to do. I am specifically trying to solve a problem not just let light fairies into my life.

the person im dealing with is currently angry with me and i want to clear things up for him but im not sure what to say because i dont think we trust each other enough to be in a relationship. but if i say i want to be friends he will think i dont like him i more than like him, if it do not bother me to say id say im in love.

we dated a while ago but he used things too quickly-not sex just generally- and i didn't know how to go slow and be around him so i just ended it but never explained. now we hang out & i can tell we both still like each other. and he's asked me out but bc i dont want to make the same mistake im distant with him so he won't think im ready or anything so that i dont disappoint him... but its back firing bc he thinks im playing games.

anyhow we already hang out and that is not helping clear things up. so i dont see how
be present is supposed to be helpful. more like no one reads anything other than the title.

-do tell him i want to be with him but be friends first?

-or tell him how i feel but want to be friends for now?

or something else?

i can't really ask him what he wants bc I've confused him so i dont think he'd be able to answer. i can't really answer but he asked a question and i dont want to ignore it.

we dated 2 years ago. weve been on friendly terms for the past 6 months. he got mad 5 days ago and said he does not want to play games. and asked what i want.

maybe casual dating is an ok idea I don't know. but he does not date around so he might take it as i dont really like him.

should i just ask him why he asked?

[I do want to be with you , but we are not friends.. we never really had the opportunity. i dont want to be with someone i am not friends with... I think it back fired last time and most of what happened whooped not have if wed gone slower. I blame myself for that. I was too eager to be with you.

I want you to understand, I am not saying that as an excuse to date aound-im not interested in anyone but you- or bc i dont ever want to be with you or even that i dont want to now.. I really just think its best to take it slow so there no miscommunication -like before. We can build trust and confidence in each other without pressure of making things work.

I think we should try being friends - genuinely with emphasis on kindness honesty and respect- for a few months then revisit the subject of US. What do you think?]


I don't know what i think,. what do you guys think?

is this bullshit

real

silly

reasonable

I never even asked hm to be in a relationship. i only asked what he wanted bc i was getting mixed messages...