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I don't want to be one of those girls who overanalyzes things (I know, I'm a woman, too late), but I really can't read this guy at all.

So, we met about three months ago (near the start of the school year). He's a graduating senior this year, and I'm a sophomore, so there's an age difference of 19 to 21. He's a professional acting major, and I'm a stage management major, so while we share the same major and school (theatre), we have very different concentrations/fields.

We see each other often, and I've hung out with him a few times outside of our work or class. He's very encouraging of me and is constantly saying things like, "You're so insightful" and "You're so good at ______" (whatever it is we're doing). I've had a huge crush on him since a few weeks after us meeting, but figured he was totally out of my league. But a couple things have made me hesitate.

Firstly, he has an issue with complimenting others, or so I've heard him say. He makes a point of telling me when I look nice, and will often do so in a very...attention-grabbing kind of a way. For example, turning to a mutual friend and saying something like, "Doesn't she always look beautiful?"

Secondly, he's a very physically affection person. With everyone, not just me. Which is why I'm not sure how to feel when he hugs me from behind, pulls me close to cuddle with him intimately on the couch (my back pressed against his chest), or when he kisses me on the forehead. He's done it four times, and it's just odd for me because I've never had a guy kiss me there before. I hear the forehead kiss can mean many things.

The first time was at a party, and it was kind of like a "goodbye" because I just caught him on his way out. It had been a pretty stressful night (stupid drama he had to deal with for his roommate's sake) and he just smiled down at me, kissed me on the forehead, and left. I chalked it up to him having been drinking.

The second, we were working on something backstage. I was super distracted (as a stage manager, I had a million people trying to talk to me, ask me things, etc.) and he stops me, took my head in his hands, and leaned down to kiss me on the side of the forehead out of nowhere. I didn't have much time to react. I just blinked a couple times, then turned away to do my job, but it really made my heart stop.

The third time, I was working on the computer. He came up behind me, so I tilted my head up and he leaned down to press a succession of really quick kisses on my forehead. Then earlier today, the fourth time, he was leaving to work on something, and as he was getting up, he leaned over to kiss the top of my head.

He likes to grab my shoulders, he's constantly teaching me, giving me weird looks in class, trying to make me laugh, etc. I told my friend I think he just thinks of me as a little sister, but she insists otherwise. So I thought I'd ask for some guys' opinions.

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So here's the situation. I am leaving for my sophomore year of college in four days. My school is about an hour to an hour and a half away (about 75 miles).

I have a boyfriend who will be a senior in high school this fall (yeah, he's a baby/I'm a cradle robber yada yada yada) anyway, he's obviously still in my home town. October will mark our two year anniversary. We survived last year just fine being apart. I wasn't that far away and I returned home about every other weekend to visit and he came up for a day every once in a while too so it was a rather smooth transition and we survived just fine.

But now here lies the problem. My mother went off on me today. And all because I asked if our family had plans for labor day weekend. Anyway she's sick of me and told me I was not welcome home at any time during the school year. That's not to say she won't let me stay, just that any time I spend at home during the school year will be the most miserable time of my life because she'll "make it that way."

So here is the question. Do I return home throughout the school year to visit my boyfriend and keep our relationship alive, or make him drive to see me every time he wants to and stay away from my house?

It's the same distance for him to travel as it is for me, but he is busier on weekends than I am. So it'd be fewer weekends that he could come up. And when he comes up I only see him for a day and when I go home we get the whole weekend.

So I'm stuck. Do I force myself to tolerate my home environment to see him or do I force him to drive to me?

And if you don't think my home environment is that bad, well...it is. My mom screams at me no matter what. She also smacks me around. Only me though. Not any of my siblings nor my father. Just me. She daily tells me that I am a waste of space and air and just makes me feel awful about myself. Even though I am in the honors program at school, have a healthy, stable relationship and really have done quite well so far in life. I also really really love school. I love being there and the environment and the freedom. But I love my boyfriend fiercely. We're discussing potentially getting married in about four years or so.

So...what would you do?

If I go home to see him I'll be miserable and if I don't I might lose him due to the lack of in person contact.

So I'd either be miserable at home but have him or be miserable at school and lose him.