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Ok so im in a tough situation im in a new relationship with this guy and things are getting a bit serious we been dating a liitle over 9 months and we made it official between us 2 months ago and now i let him move in with me. He has 2 kids from his previous relationship a boy & a girl they come over on the weekends the boy is 5 & the girl is 3 i babysit them when i get off of work for four hours until there dad get off work... i have an ok friendship with their mom i figure she doesn't like me because i can just sense it... but she's respectful and so am i but anyways she told me that they are a handful so if they get out of line to spank them... i laughed it off because at the time she told me that i didn't think they where that bad but nooooow lol they are very much so a handful and i do get the urge to wanna spank them escpecially the 5 year old he calls me racist names like a n****r, blacky pants, & calls me stupid ass, fat ass, im not even fat i guess he's just not use to seeing women with big hips and big butt lol but he ruins my apartment NEVER listens while the 3 year old mocks him but she actually listens if i tell her to stop but i tell her to stop over 50 times! I dont spank them Yet lol i got the ok from their mom but not dad they act like angels around there dad and he loves them so much he will never lay a hand on them yell at them nothing i know he would be tottally against me hitting them i rather just stop watching them so i wouldn't have to spank them but i dont want their dad thinking i dont like them and i do want to help out with his kids he only get them on the weekends i want to oneday be their stepmom but i dont know what to do. He gets really sensitive over his kids i dont want this to ruin our relationship i just want his kids to have respect for me 😩

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My boyfriend consistently ditches me or is late. There's also a number of times he has lied to me. Yet he claims that I am not normal/weird for being upset. I will list a few examples.

1. This is the most frequent. Happens so often that when he tells me "I won't be late" or we make arrangements, I already know it's not going to happen. He sends me a message saying he's going out. Right then & there. This was not previously discussed. Then he ignores me. Often for over 6 hours until 2 am.
2. He went to Brazil last year for work. He told me he didn't intend to travel. On the 3rd day of being there, he sent a text saying he decided to travel, his boss said he could. He disappeared for an entire week. This was bad enough; a business trip turning into a leisure trip without him informing me of his whereabouts, no answers to messages, phone calls unanswered. About 4 months after this I saw on booking. com that he booked the hotels for various cities in Brazil BEFORE he even left. So this was planned. I. e. he lied about it having been a "spontaneous" idea.
3. He met up with some woman from the internet. He didn't tell me. He is adamant that he did but I know for sure he didn't. How do I know? Because we bumped into this woman and she yelled "you should have told me you have a girlfriend!". When we got home, there was a letter in the letterbox with several massage bottles from said woman claiming my boyfriend fucked her. My boyfriend says she's crazy. I want to believe him but he lied about her in the first place.
4. One night he was suposedly not feeling good and in bed. I remember the date of that night. Well, one day I was cleaning the apartment and found a receipt. It was for a bar, from that night, obviously consumption by more than one person. He claims it wasn't him, but it is his credit card number and it was in his apartment so yes... .