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I am pretty fed up with all this.

I am single, 30, with a job that has barely anytime to go out. I don’t have much friends and the most time I spent with is my dog. I decided to be on dating apps. I am looking!

I met a handle full of people through Tinder and Bumble. I always made myself clear I am not looking for friends with benefits, hook ups, or booty calls. All the guys the came across with which I am interested, is supposed to be on the same page as me. I realized a trend with Instagram and dating apps. Usually guys will ask for my Instagram and we follow each other. Then we start chatting through DM on instagram. The biggest red flag is, they follow a whole list of chicks besides me on Instagram. I see them active online most of the time and sometimes, my messages gets ignored. I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months and he won’t make the next step. I find myself wasting time and he on the other hand, follows new girls on Instagram from the city every day!

I decided to move on, matched with someone on Tinder. We were very interested. Once again, the instagram thing came up, he asked me to follow him... and the same thing... he has a bunch of chicks on there. We chatted on the phone last night, he asked to meet me today. He did mention that his grandma was dying at the hospital and it’s just the matter of time. So, he never messaged me this morning, I was the one who messaged him. I saw him ONLINE on instagram a lot. So I texted him how was his job interview and he got the job. He did not mention about his grandma passing away. After confirming if we’re still meeting up... he said “his grandma passed today and he’s heading back to his city”! Once again, he is constantly on instagram.

I told him if you’re not interested, just say so. But he just said “Things just got really real really quick today. I was genuinely looking forward to meeting with you but these are not circumstances I had control over”...

Is he full of it?

Guys, say the girl you see serious potential with goes away for a few months and you guy are not really anything yet. You were still getting in the getting to know you phase when she had to leave/

She told you she is interested in you and wants to see where this goes when she is back.

Why would it bother you to know that she's actively meeting new people while she's there? Is it fear of her moving on /losing interest?

I should also add that you both are not in constant contact as like I said, this is very new.