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So obviously, there's this guy. We've been friends for awhile, & after he had a nasty breakup over Christmas break. Well we were still close, & I kinda liked him, but he was struggling with the loss of a 2 year relationship that didn't end well, and needed space. Well after move in day in Aug, we started getting closer again. Hanging out a lot, walks, the little diner type place on campus... my feelings grew. I wasn't sure if it was mutual, but because we're apart of a lot of the same groups & were so close, I was seeing him so much that I was about to start making things crazy awkward. I asked one of our mutual friends who's basically his sister, & she said that while he was still having relationship anxiety, if I felt like we needed to talk about it, that we should. So we did. I got an awkward smile & "Okay", with a text a few minutes later saying that I took him off guard, but that he isn't looking into a relationship with anyone in anyway. The usual cop out. But like I said, he is actually struggling with relationship anxiety, & I feel like we've actually gotten a lot closer. We've gone to the coffee shop together almost every day since, we eat together a lot (usually w/ a group), occasional text, he cracks at almost all my jokes, the body language signs (with the exception of the hair), Snapchat story feature, today was the first day we haven't see each other & hung out in over a week and he texted me with a work question... so basically is there any chance that it wasn't a cop out & he really, truly isn't ready?

Oh, & this is probably a bigger deal then I'm making it out to be, but side note, I'm fairly certain his brother likes me?

There's also this other girl & they do stuff together, but she's several years older then us, usually is the one to initiate the hangout, and I think likes this other guy. But they do go get food some or an occasional movie, & he messes with his hair around her (But not the other signs). He insist that they're just friends, so I don't know.

Yeah, that happened to me today.
I met this guy around the time I was having problems with my now ex boyfriend.
I asked a question about something he was doing.
Then he replied with his opinion and then we talked for a while and eventually it moved on to private messaging.
I reallyyy LIKED this guy and he helped me realize me and my exboyfriend's relationship wasn't healthy.
We talked for like hours that night and I just really LIKED him but it was just a crush.
The thing is though I just got out of a bad relationship.
I didn't want to get into a relationship yet.
I told him this once I realized we might be catching feelings for each other.
At the time I feel like I was in a really bad place.
Me and my ex were together for 2 yearsit was a serious relationship.
I wasn't sure what I was feeling for him but I was sure that I liked him.
Here's the twist this all happened over the course of 4 days! 4 days.
So I think yesterday he told me he loved me.
I wasn't sure what to think and I wanted to keep him around but I didn't feel like I was in love with him.
But I told him I loved him anyway mainly because I didn't want to hurt him.
So he started saying it more and the more I said it the guiltier I felt.
So the next day I told him...
It was a mess.
He was not listening.
He was convinced that I was scared?
And told me to follow my heart.
I am following my heart my heart is saying no.
I also told him that I have a hard time saying no to people.
I really feel like he took advantage of me.
I am in a bad place right now.
I don't want another relationship right now, and he says he loves me?
When we've only been talking for like 4 days!
I'm just confused and tired.
I admit I was so wrong for doing that l apologized multiple times.
I just still wish he didn't say that to me I liked him but never loved.
I didn't want to hurt his feelings but I think it would have been better if I had just told him.