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It's complicated and silly but it happens almost every time I go out and if I can understand it I can laugh it off,maybe alter my own behavior .Sometimes it ruins my day or my walk ,however mature I am or how I try to rationalize it or ignore it. It's so frustratingly bizarre.

Why do girls so this?

When walking with a guy, often holding his hand they either :

insult me/comment on my looks

or

stare me down, often stopping their boyfriend in his tracks in the middle of my path to make out with him?

Every so often, a girl will follow me around trying to strike up a conversation, usually if I am shopping in a market.Those times, I assume he's her brother and she's playing ' wing man'.

I get this from teen girls and women who are dressed like businesswomen in their 30/40s.

Some background,since these things effect social interactions:

I just moved to a small city where no one knows me.

am quiet and low key, I like to go for walks to relax after working on household chores or for a coffee in the evening. I 'live in' jeans and a tee shirt (both clean,no holes) , I wear no make up, my BMI is 18 so I'm not skinny or fat ,I am flat chested and far from a model or a slut. I wear my hair short bobbed. I have been told maybe 10 times in my Life that I am pretty and maybe as many that I am ugly.

When I walk, I am looking at the beautiful old architecture and lots of old trees and flowers,it's a lovely place to live- which is part of why this behavior from people confuses me. Sometimes, in a good mood, I am smiling at people,sometimes I look up to see a girl staring me down as she and her boyfriend approach or she moves him into my path and stands there with him.

The city is mixed classes,races,ages,nationalities- very diverse. It is also nice and homey, often described by the locals as a 'town' . It's also a 'city' , a big center for commerce and government with lots of tourists.

I'm getting tired of my friends' negative comments on my hair not being worn straightened,dread locked or in braids..they're just girls and not guys but it still hurts plus their the same race as me,you'd think they were supportive

I've never worn a weave and don't plan to but my best friend suggested I should!

I always wear my hair in a bun or ponytail hardly ever down even if I do get it flat ironed but that's damaging to do I wanted to grow my hair out so I won't have to flat iron it to look "good and acceptable" I'm still in high school but graduate next year hopefully people aren't as crude in college.

These are hairstyles I've worn b4 but will never do braids again I love my real hair even if its not as long with braids..but I've only been called beautiful by men(one in his 20s the other in his 30s but it wasn't to hit on me it was just a compliment)when my hair wasn't straightened or in braids