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a featured article I read here the other day inspired me to ask this question. but before I start I would like to apologize in advance for sounding too vulgar.

OK so as a guy who doesn't want to get involve in any serious relationship right now I kinda finding this "emotional connection" thing a major turn off. I mean this to me sounds like something that could lead to some sort of attachment later on after the sex. and as a human being it kinda sounds illogical to me that someone needs to feel an "emotional connection" with another human being in order for that individual to have sex with that person. let'snot forget that is proven millions of times that both our sex drives (men and women's) function the same exact way so to me this is more reason why I believe a woman could still have sex with a man just for finding him sexually appealing. I even met a lot of women who say that it is indeed unnecesary for women to feel this "emotional connection" in order to let their freaky side out. most of them even when on criticizing these women who say such a thing by calling them bullshitters, hypocrites, fakers, etc. lets not forget how there are a lot of women out there who would have sex for money and favors aka things that dont relate to "emotional connections."

anyways getting to the point i think this "emotional connection" bullshit is just a hoax women nowadays use in order to repress their wild side and not feel like a slut or any other type of guilt from it. but yea, i just want to know, do I have a right to see women who say such a thing as a red flag? or am i being too judgmental?

I am married, happily; however, for about 6 months before my wedding my fiancé was living at home while I was going to college 4 hours away. During that period I started to realize that most of my friends were no longer at school with me because they had graduated, transferred, dropped out, etc. There was one very close friend of mine who was still in school with me, and shortly after being dumped by the guy she thought she was going to marry, she began realizing the same thing. Consequently we began spending a lot of time together. I already loved her in a friendly, non-romantic sense before any of this happened, but with neither of us having a significant other (at least not close by) and fewer friends surrounding us, it began to feel more like a traditional "couple" relationship. I started noticing how good her hair looked, how I enjoyed the smell of her when she was near me, and how good it felt when I made her laugh. My love for her changed but I have never, and will never, act on it as long as I am married. I never told either woman that I love this girl, but I did let my wife know that if we hadn't gotten married for some reason I would have pursued the other girl. Does my emotional attachment to this other woman count as cheating on my wife or is it just my imagination wondering what could have been?

Women cheat just as much as men, and their affairs are more dangerous.
An Indiana University study shows that men and women cheat at the same rate. But “The reasons the sexes cheat are different,” says Dr. Orlando. He explains women are more likely to cheat for emotional satisfaction. “Online cheating—without any physical contact—is the most damaging type of infidelity,” says Orlando. Becoming emotionally invested in another person means you’ve likely checked out of your marriage. But if it’s just sex, it’s less about attachment and more about a hurtful mistake. What do you think about this statement? Is it possible a woman sexting, or emotionally having some form relationship with a man, even if sex is not involved?

Why would a fiance you are deeply in love with cheat on me? I'm a guy, and this story is now old, but still affects me to this day. I was engaged in my mid 20s about 7 years ago, but my fiance went off one night with friends "got drunk" and "accidentally" slept with a guy.

We stayed together but it was more of cold stare back and forth for a month. Eventually I was learned to forgive because she truly was sorry and without forgiveness then you have nothing.

Anyway, those are nostalgic times. I am curious as to why something from that long ago still bothers me. I have no problem dating women now, but I throw up an emotional shield when I start to develop any real feelings to prevent long-term attachment and bail.

I know it has to do with my ex-fiance, her cheating, me forgiving, and then her leaving me to go "explore life" (which apparently means sleeping with all your NOW ex-friends).

I've done everything from psychologists to praying to just going out to the bar and chatting with a girl, with no intention or thought of scoring. Just female company over some drinks which sometimes leads to insight in the female mind lol.

Alright I feel I'm ranting now.