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Met a guy at work who would make me laugh and I found very attractive. We'd flirt all the time but he had an on and off relationship with a girl he'd been with for 4 years. They had a baby and ended the relationship, had a one night stand and had another child.
Before I went away for holiday, he had started visiting where I work after having leave for an op. he was flirting with me heavily and took my number.
When I went away I had a bad experience with a guy which wasn't consented. When I got back I wasn't myself. Sex wasn't very important to me.
We met several times, he lives quite a while away so I would stay over but nothing happened till the 3rd night and it was all on my terms. To begin with it was just sex and I knew that. But it grew and we became more intimate in other ways. He told me he loved me very early which worried me but after giving him a chance to take it back I didn't think about it much.
I realised majority of the relationship was staying indoors eating junk food watching films and listening to him talk about his ex. It was hard because they were still in contact as they'd had children. However I felt like I was a shrink rather than his gf.
8 months later I decided to go on a break so he could get his thoughts together - his ex is on cocaine and is sleeping around with the kids in her place. He had every reason to be worried.
Recently we met up to talk as the break wasn't helping due to is still working together. It was clear he's not over his ex, which was an issue raised early in the relationship. He didn't know much about me. I asked him questions which he couldn't answer. Yet he was saying everything is been feeling for the last few months. It was confusing.
My worry is that I'm a rebound and that even though he sometimes seems like he cares, I mean nothing to him.
I suggested friends with benefits after sleeping with him (after which we had a deep conversation) as I don't want to lose him as a friend but I don't want to be fucked ov

I met him this past August (2014) we're both in college. We were just friends at first he started just sleeping over 3 weeks after we met and we first kissed About a month 1/2 after we met.. We didn't have sex until about 3- 3 1/2 months after me met.. But all the while he was stayed over every night.. His past relationships have really hurt him his ex cheated with his best friend and his last relationship last semester h has told me he still has feelings for her.. He told me he never got any closure because she just left school and didn't come back.. He has told me that he is heartless and has no feelings because he has been hurt so many times.. he has told me on several occasions to just leave him alone and that I deserve a better guy.. And that he is preparing me for my next boyfriend.. but he gets in what I call man periods when he just shuts down and tells me to leave him alone and a few times he will say I'm done this is the last time you will speak to me.. Like most people In friends with benefits I caught feelings for him and I have told him that on several occasions that I do care for him.. The people that do know about him think we're almost in a relationship and not stuck at friends with benefits. I have thought about ending it but I like him and I highly doubt it will phase him because I no he could go out and get another girl the next day.. and i no he isn't sleeping with someone else because I'm with him most of the time except when he is in classes and he spends every night with me. We talk everyday while we're on break mainly in text message and snapchat but we talk everyday on and off.