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People keep complaining about how no woman/man will give them a chance. I am nice, they say-- attractive, have good job--so it must be the world and not me.

Chances are however, that people don't realize that they have a chip on their shoulders or are giving off an angry/bitter/desperate vibe that smart people run away from.

That leaves only the players and manipulators who can see their weaknesses an use them to hurt them over and over again.

Instead of seeing their faults and fixing them so this doesn't happen however, they figure it must be because women don't want nice guys, or all guys are dogs. Hummm, maybe it is time to see what we ourselves are doing to make our dating lives unfruitful.

I mean--is it just easier for people to lash out at the world than to fix themselves?

I had to internalize and see why I was messing up. Come to find out I was too clingy/desperate and that kept picking emotionally unavailable men who were like my dad, a drug abuser.

I wanted to be "saved" by love.

Emotionally stable people with morals ran--leaving jerks who used my neediness and pain to their advantage.

I never gave up hope,and when I realized where I was erring, I made healthy changes.

In time, I met a really good guy and we have been happily married ever since.

So many people stand in the way of their own unhappiness but want to blame others.

Why do we do this to ourselves?

Check out his article on the 101 bad habits we fall into that make keep us single, as this will maybe shed some light:

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