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Hi everyone,
When I studied in the eighth grade (last year), I was assigned a seat beside this particular girl. Prior to that, I scorned love. I have always been an introvert. The girl I'm talking about is amazingly beautiful, but I never realized that at that time. She is of the flirtatious type, and flirts with nearly everyone, including me. I am too shy to compliment anyone. When my position was changed, I began to miss something. What it was, I could not understand. But after a few weeks, I realized that she was whom I missed. From that moment, I've been madly in love with her. I daydream about her, lose myself in her photos on FB (I don't have an account), and sometimes feel that school is worth attending only for her (I'm good in academics, by the way). She has countless admirers, and is in a relationship with someone else. We are very different, but even when I know all that, I can't kill my feelings for her. We are just friends, and till date, I have never made a move towards her, for fear of losing her altogether. I know that this may sound silly, but is what I'm experiencing love for her, or just an infatuation or obsession? All answers are appreciated, and also give your opinion through the poll.
Thanks in advance!

I was just curious about what kind of lifestyle wrt relationship (s) you'd most want to have over the course of your life. I've thought of 5 options.

1. +20 years. A lifelong monogamous relationship (to the right person obviously). This does not necessarily mean marriage or kids (though it can if you want it to). The initial excitement won't be there after 20 years obviously and you will have arguments that you will have to get past. But this provides the most amount of support and emotional connection to each other. If you get sick or injured, the other will stay with you (and you will have to do the same). You will be committed to making it work as will the other person. Both of you will want to make the other happy.

2. 5-15 years. You will have a very long term relationship but will separate after a while. I can only imagine people picking this because it'll allow them to raise kids and then leave each other for something else. This seems a weird option but it does happen a lot so I included it.

3. 6 mnths-2 years. Serial monogamy. You have relationships for that emotional high of love/infatuation. It won't be any kind of life partner though. If you move/become pregnant/have an accident, the other person won't stay with you. You will break up when serious issues arise or when the magic fades.

4. <2 months. Purely sex. No emotional connection or long term commitment/support. You get lots of sexual partners but no serious relationships and you will have to chase/seduce every partner. If you lose money or become less attractive, the others won't stick around. You get excitement and freedom but less stability.

5. No relationship at all. (There'll be a few who'll pick this).

Tl;dr: if you had to choose, what lifestyle would you most want to have wrt relationships. The more short term it is, the more excitement but less stability. The more long term it is, the more stability and support but your options will be restricted a little more.