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Ok, so I met him almost 2 years ago. We met online and clicked from the beginning. However, due to our circumstances & crazy amount of distance we haven't been able to meet until now.

About 8 months into talking, I felt like I was investing a lot of time & emotions into him so I didn't want him talking to other people. I was completely driven by my emotions and asked for us to be in a relationship even though we hadn't even met yet. I understand that from an objective point of view that seems dumb and illogical to be committed to someone you haven't even met and looking back, I wish I didn't do that. He also made it very clear that he wasn't ready for a relationship but I pushed it anyways (again I know that's my fault).

But soon after him agreeing to the relationship I became suspicious if he was actually being faithful or not. And about 7 months into us being "official" I found out he had about 3 one night stands over the course of us dating.

We've talked about it & there was nothing emotional. He even showed me the conversations between him and these people and it was clear that it was only sexually driven. Still, i felt hurt. And if this was a normal relationship or less complex situation I would've left immediately. But I basically gave him an ultimatum - either a relationship or stop talking which now I realize was wrong and I have not been very understanding in the past.. not someone he could feel comfortable being honest to. I'm not blaming myself for him cheating but it would be a lie to say my past actions didn't contribute to him being so dishonest.

Overall, he's been amazing to me.. always there for me. And there's so much of the relationship I don't want to lose. So I'm stuck between leaving and meeting him then giving another chance. He's done everything from giving me his passwords to answering my questions to anything to make me feel more comfortable. I'm conflicted. Please help

Ok, so lets call my two friends Rianna and Crystal.
I have been friends with Crystal since 3rd grade and we befriended Rianna last year. The more we spent time with her the more she became attatched, clingy and possessive to us. This year is a new year and she says things without thinking first. She says stuff about Crystal's friends and mine which upsets us. We ignored Rianna and she cried. We got sent to the counselors office for the second time. The first time was when rianna and I liked the same guy and the guy asked me out and i was so happy. I didn't tell Rianna right away and i told her the next day as Crystal said it was the right thing to do. Rianna had a break down and started cussing at us. The way i look at her was never the same. The third time was when I thought Crystal and Rianna were upset at each other and I had to look for Crystal as she went somewhere. Rianna was trying to make me read something but I was worried about Crystal. Then rianna started crying again saying I dont care about her and thay she was the third wheel and i was not treating her equally. I got angry at her because i tried to explain to her but she keeps walking away. We ended up in the office once again. Crystal and I unfriended Rianna which was yesterday. Now I told her I was willing to give her another last chance. She said that she has been trying her hardest to change. I know regret it and want to take it back... please help? Thank you