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My boyfriend and I have dated for 3 months. Because he is in the military, we are doing a long distance relationship. We used to be in constant communication. However, lately, he has been acting distant. Additionally, there is an immediate decline in replies to my messages. I pretended not to notice, and he later told me that he is getting deployed to Korea soon. He said he didn't tell me earlier because he didn't want me to be worried about him. I later told him that after this deployment, if he wishes to part ways due to lack of affections, I told him I won't blame him. He told me he does intend on keeping his promises, loves me, and thought I was pushing him away with this message, but told me he is just as insecure.

Is he ghosting me? I gave him the opportunity to break up and leave me. But he doesn't want to? There is a drastic change in his behaviour. Is he stressed or busy with preparing for deployment soon?

Let me first state, I am not posting this to offend anyone. I actually want to get some feedback from both trans and non-trans people. So if you're an asshole, leave. I'm trying to learn something.

Is our society becoming "gender neutral", or going into "gender denial"?

There are certain qualities that men/women generally excel in due to biology (brain development, hormone levels, etc); however I feel it is okay for those who go against the grain to embrace their unique qualities, without identifying as another sex, i. e. "a woman that is physically capable of passing the men's military PT should be allowed to join the military as a woman" or "a very nurturing father should be allowed to be a stay-at-home-dad, instead of being called "Mr. Mom". I don't feel it is necessary to change one's "gender identity" just because they have qualities belonging to the opposite sex. Males and females can have things in common.

I don't understand how a man can feel like a woman, if the primary purpose of having opposite sexes is for copulation. If that is true, then a man cannot feel like a woman, ever. It would have to be identification in more superficial societal norms. Isn't saying "I'm a femme guy" easier than saying "On the outside I'm a guy, but on the inside I am a girl. My body is a mistake, and I plan to get surgery to remedy that". I don't think surgery can ever remedy that, because a transperson can never reproduce again. Ever.
Wouldn't it just be easier to let guys be pretty and girls be butch, rather than to force them to see themselves differently just because society doesn't like their appearance, or find their behavior unrelatable?

Neither my partner nor I are trans, but we are androgynous as a unit. He's kind of feminine, and I'm kind of masculine. But we both accept that about each other, and know who we are. I bought him a pretty pashmina coat for Christmas, and he helps me gun shop to find one right for my needs.

Why isn't this ^ more of a thing?