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1st guy I was in a relationship for 3 years, the relationship started as friends he became my best friend there for me through thick & thin but as time went on he became selfish, not treating me as well he is also bi polar w/adhd , eventually we were off & on the relationship was hurting me & making my depression/anxiety much worse. Long story short him & I decided to part ways when we did we both tried to move on but constantly felt unfulfilled & just thought of each other. He's grown up a lot through all of this (he's a year younger than me) & over the breakup he realized none of the things he put over me was worth it. I am a priority & should come first. He finally sees all he has done wrong and apologized. He wants to be together he's even cut all his friends out to give me his undivided attention. But he's made many promises to do right by me before and didn't stick to it.. so I'm scared. He also doesn't have a job yet and doesn't come from the best environment. But he is loyal to me and I can trust him I'm just not sure if I can rely on him. I also feel nervous/unsettled around him at times. But he has my heart.

2nd guy known him for years through a mutual friend maybe 4 through xbox live? Never really got to talk much because he was always busy with basketball and school. He is a year and a few months older than me. He is in college in texas plays basketball on a scholarship and is the son of a retired nba player. When I'm with him I feel comforted and at peace, he makes me laugh and smile. He's responsible and thoughtful. He wants to take things slow to make sure he can give me what I need while he's making big decisions and busy with basketball. He aspires to be in the nba but has back up plans majoring in engineering. He's got a good head on his shoulders I just feel like a piece of me is missing when I'm "with" him and like that will never go away. I will be happy with him and supported but will always miss my ex. He also has a temper. We haven't met yet.

LONG STORY SHORT: I’m in an abusive relationship his ex beats up any girl he tries to talk to we met at work. We started off as hook up. Me to get away from my abuser ( feel stuck) him I guess he felt lonely. He didn’t care at first and then we would start arguing like couples do and he’d be mean id be mean however we never stopped talking. We work together by the way. So he’d get drunk tell me he wanted me to be his id say I wanted him to be mine but when brought up sober he’d deny deny deny. So I’d deny but I secretly had feelings for him. So we went out downtown and he called me baby in front of a group of guys because they were looking at me. I finally the next day asked about why he called me that and he denied denied and then I asked him again during text and told him to chill out about being so defensive because I liked it which he replied with “ mhmmmhm” which he not replies like that when he has nothing to say but wants to say something. After this incident he starts to look scared of me acting nervous not looking me in the eye and kinda avoiding me but still trying to get my attention at the same time. So then I asked if he cared about my situation and he said “ why did u want me to care, cause I don’t” but I could tell he did. Next day he kept bringing up my abusive boyfriend and kept asking why haven’t I left yet. And what I’m waiting for. I then tell him I’d rather be with him which he turned around looked very shyly and said “ well your still with him so...” and tried to his whatever he was feeling ( he can’t express his emotions well we’ve talked about it) now he’s acting EXTREMELY ODD now and awkward and shy. Why is this?