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I know that was a long question title & I was going to wait till tomorrow but let’s dive in now!

So if our partner has an insecurity or multiple insecurities, do we share the responsibility. This was a curveball of a question that was thrown at me over the weekend and it had my little brain working.

Their point was that when we date we share things including dreams, goals, fears, insecurities,! etc. They’re suggesting that when it comes to their individual’s insecurities whether it be an external or internal, we shouldn’t just be sensitive but also be obligated to help them with it.

Do you agree or disagree? And why? 🤔

So my Girlfriend loves celebrity artists such as actors, singers, etc. I know everyone crushes on celebrities and what not, it’s a normal thing but here’s my dilemma; I am not the typical type of guy my girlfriend usually dates. She goes for guys who are not conventionally attractive, curly hair, big nose, kinda quirky looking. I do not have curly hair, big nose, and I feel as though I’m closer to average when it comes to looks. The issue I’m having is that these celebrities that she tells me about and gushes over look almost identical too her many exes and I look nothing like them. While I too have celebrity crushes, I usually don’t share them with her or don’t make a big deal about it. I’m just curious if this has bothered any other guy. Or girls is this something that is a turn off if I were to address it?

*Side note* We have been dating for about 6 months now and last month we hit a rough patch where she broke a good amount of trust. So while I’m normally very confident, I fear as though this insecurity may stem from that. But I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Pick one perfect thing in your life. The rest will be mediocre/sub-par (a 3 out of 10 in quality). And no, you CANNOT use one to cheat and get the other ones. ONE thing will be perfect, and the rest will be crap, unless you choose the last option.

A) Your perfect soulmate, or Forever Alone.
B) Your ideal body, or short, overweight, and ugly.
C) Your dream career, or "just a dead-end job" that gets you a mediocre paycheck every two weeks.
D) Two of the best, most loyal, most genuine people you could have as friends (your preference), or mere acquaintances you can't even trust.
E) Complete confidence and no insecurities about your personality and looks (happiness not guaranteed), or insecurities, fears, and doubt like everyone else.
F) Easy lotto jackpot win of millions of dollars, or lower middle-class for life.
G) Everything on the list is upgraded to a 4 out of 10 in quality and you get it all, but nothing is too great or fantastic.

I think I'd have to go with the soulmate. My life is already basically option G.