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I'm starting to think this guy really is the one... despite all of our issues. Very long story made short, we dated in hs and kissed/held hands and I dumped him after 2 weeks. Apparently really broke his heart. In college we fell for each other again. Or well, he liked me all along. Then when it came to kissing him I got nervous and didn't go for it. Weeks later he just said he was using me to get back at me for not liking him when he liked me... but the thing is, we never dated or did anything. We didn't do anything different from what we'd always done.

I think I'm calling us even. His little story is completely nonsensical and I'm not going to attempt to explain more. It was years ago. Me dumping him was almost a decade ago. I've dated other people... even ones I thought were great. They still haven't compared to him.

Do you think we can repair this? He's written me about how he wants to keep me in his life for a lifetime, that he loves me. Maybe not romantically, idk, didn't specify. We keep in contact and talk to each other when we're really truly upset. We share our deepest secrets still. The last time I saw him he kept starting at my mouth when we talked. He asked for advice on girls and really took my advice seriously. He also questioned me about every guy in my life.

We're still rebuilding our friendship... but we've gone in and out of liking each other all our lives. Can we call it even and maybe go for it at this point?

My boyfriend and I started dating last summer. My bff was not too excited about us, so we kept us a secret, because we only had one week together before he moved six hours away. I thought it wasn't going to last. But we stayed in touch, and after six months we started to daydream about the future. I was moving to his city in the fall. The secret relationship was hard for us though, and when he came home two weeks ago we started dating in public, as the world believed we just met. My bff was cool with it. Problem is, he broke up with me last night. He said keeping him a secret had made him feel like a low prioroty, and accused me of putting my bff before him, since I wouldn't tell her. How do you tell someone after six months you've had a boyfriend? Our friendship would be over, but he doesen't understand this. He said it had killed almost all the feelings he had for me, at least made them a lot weaker than it was last summer, when he was very much in love with me.

Last week, we spent the night at our second house, ate some delicious food, talked, lied in the sun, listened to music and had a great time. He mentioned this when he broke up and said he was surprised over how good it was. It was like we had no problems at all, it was like last summer.

My question is, are we completely over? He said he had been thinking about this the last couple of months, and that he had really, really tried, and he thought I was a great girl and he wanted to be with me, but his feelings were chased away by my wish to keep us a secret, to not hurting my bff (I'm not really a bad friend, it is another story, not important to this). He said he has feelings for me, but they were weak, but I think about our little trip and what wonderful time we had. I think there is still something there. He says there is nothing wrong with who I am, the problem is what is around us. How can anyone throw away 11 months in two weeks? I want him to fall in love with me again. Is it even possible