Search Results: casual dating dos and donts

I think often when women are trying to solve a relationship parable, people just tell them useless things like be nice or open or pleasant or supportive encouraging etc. its not helpful. im not waiting for something to happen. i want to fix things, i just dont know -what- to do. I am specifically trying to solve a problem not just let light fairies into my life.

the person im dealing with is currently angry with me and i want to clear things up for him but im not sure what to say because i dont think we trust each other enough to be in a relationship. but if i say i want to be friends he will think i dont like him i more than like him, if it do not bother me to say id say im in love.

we dated a while ago but he used things too quickly-not sex just generally- and i didn't know how to go slow and be around him so i just ended it but never explained. now we hang out & i can tell we both still like each other. and he's asked me out but bc i dont want to make the same mistake im distant with him so he won't think im ready or anything so that i dont disappoint him... but its back firing bc he thinks im playing games.

anyhow we already hang out and that is not helping clear things up. so i dont see how
be present is supposed to be helpful. more like no one reads anything other than the title.

-do tell him i want to be with him but be friends first?

-or tell him how i feel but want to be friends for now?

or something else?

i can't really ask him what he wants bc I've confused him so i dont think he'd be able to answer. i can't really answer but he asked a question and i dont want to ignore it.

we dated 2 years ago. weve been on friendly terms for the past 6 months. he got mad 5 days ago and said he does not want to play games. and asked what i want.

maybe casual dating is an ok idea I don't know. but he does not date around so he might take it as i dont really like him.

should i just ask him why he asked?

im in love with a guy and im not ready to be in a relationship too much pressure but i do want to maintain friendship and leave it open for the future im just worried hell pretend to want to stay friends bc he thinks hey she's in love so i guess shell fuck me.

yes this would of course mean he's a complete prick and not who i thought. and ill figure that to but id have wasted time by then

so just wondering how likely it would be tat he'd try to get sex out of it. im not into casual sex so im not worried about having sex with the wrong guy, i just dont want to waste time building a friendship with someone who just wants sex. but i want to tell him how i feel in case there's something on his end.

also would you be mad if i said im in love with you but just wanted to be friends for now.. keep in mind im not trying to bock you from dating other people?