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Today, I got in a huge fight with my boyfriend, about something we have fought about many times. I don't feel like he makes time for me.

We have been together for over a year, we are long distance and live an hour and a half away from each other, and he works full time, plays a professional sport (that he doesn't get paid for) that practices every weekend during the season and practices another hour and a half further from me.

I had been looking forward to the winter because it's the off season and now we could do things on the weekend together. Until yesterday... his team, which is basically all of his best friends, decided that they also want to do a winter league that's going to require one full weekend a month until the regular season starts... and on top of that he decided to play an intramural sport that plays for a couple hours every weekend during the winter.

So, today like most days in our relationship, I drove the hour and a half gladly yesterday to visit him since he asked me too because he was going to be alone, and then we get into a fight about the winter league, which doesn't get resolved, and he falls asleep early with me left watching a movie by myself.

I am woken up early this morning by him telling me he is going to play the intramural sport and will be back soon. 4 hours later, I was furious. Like most weekends, I am left sitting at his house by myself waiting for him to get back home while he goes and does whatever he wants to do. And the cherry on the cupcake was when I asked him why he was gone so long he says "We all decided to sit around after we played and talk for a while". I couldn't believe it, he left me sitting at his house by myself for hours so that he could talk to people that he sees all the time after playing a sport with them all morning.

And so starts the fight we have had so many times, that I don't feel like he takes me into consideration, and doesn't care about me. I bring up the fact that whenever he drives down to visit me, I don't leave him to go do whatever I want because I know that is rude, and when we are visiting each other we are supposed to be spending time together.

So basically my question is, is it selfish for me to ask him why we can't do something active together rather him going and doing all these things he wants to do, leaving me as a spectator? Not to mention he considers that me doing something with him. Pfft.

What can I do about this situation? Is it even worth resolving at this point? I can't shake the feeling that there is no room for me in his life.

***GOSSIP AHEAD!***

We met at a party last Friday with tons of people from uni. We're both studying engineering but different programs. We share common friends. He had to leave for another party with his friends, so he asked me for my phone number, tried to kiss me on the lips (which hinted ''player mode'' to me), texted me shorty after leaving. He texted me again on Saturday night, and on Sunday evening. He asked me out on a date and we met up around 8 PM. We walked around for a long while and we finally went to eat dinner at a nice restaurant. He paid for me.

I Facebook-stalked him before, to make sure I'd be able to tell if he bullsh*tted me. We talked about our parents and personal background. I know he's adopted, I know what type of parents he has, the relationship he has with them, what he was up to for the past years, his favorite hobbys and things, etc. Turns out both our parents come from the same region, he likes a lot of nerdy things I'm into due to having an older geeky brother, we really hit it off and we were cracking jokes.

The thing though is that I was worried about his player vibes. I'm very distrustful of men on first dates, in general. Turns out he's 25, I'm 21. He's that old because he switched majors. I was worried he'd take this for a one night stand. After dinner, we walked around in circles for a long while. I was worried he would drag me to a dark alley or something lol. He ended up kissing me at a light corner. We kept walking hand in hand, stopping every once in a while to make out. We finally arrived at the subway station and he wouldn't let me leave. We made out for over an hour. I made it very clear I wouldn't sleep with him and that he had to behave nicely. I asked what he wants and he said ''let's take things slow''. He didn't grab my privates much, it was basically very long and heated preliminaries. He often said he couldn't bare it. He kept telling me I was pretty, complimenting my eyes and skills all the time, he even said he couldn't stare at me anymore because he was too turned on. He said he wanted to fall asleep in my arms, that he felt really comfortable. He often asked me to hold him closer, he was very cuddly. He even came in his pants, that's how heaated it was. I never touched him from his belly button to mid-thigh. He said he'd respect my boundaries, although he was struggling immensely.

So anyway, I had to leave to take the subway before it shut down for the night. He said he wanted to come with me so bad (he was going the other direction). When I came home, he had texted me twice:

"Memorable night, your eyes haunt me already"

"You're really cool. I can't wait to see you again"

So basicially, I'm suspicious because he gave me more compliments in one night than I've received in my whole life. He didn't cross the line, he was very sweet, but he also was in no hurry to let me leave. It's gentleman-like to pay for my meal, pull out my chair and not jump my bones. Output please? Let's vote!