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Is that strange for a guy? After 3 weeks of dating he sat me down and told me everything he disliked about me. Then he asked me to tell him what I disliked about him.

For me, they were little things... like that he didn't respond to text messages or he hated coffee, fruits, vegetables etc.

For him, they were personality points... He said he didn't understand my sense of humor (even though he had been laughing at my jokes for weeks?), that he didn't like when I said I miss you (because that meant the time he spent with me was inadequate) and he didn't like how sometimes when I got really excited or when I really wanted something I'd pretend to act like a kid.

I walked out of the room wondering how he ever liked me... he named other personality traits. It's like he didn't want me to be me... Then as time went by I noticed things like "I don't like when girls wear makeup," "I don't like when girls wear earrings," and "I like when girls wear [this] kind of clothing" and "I don't like perfume unless it smells like [this]".

I feel like there are some major red flags there. It's like he doesn't like anything I do. After 3 weeks of dating he also said he expects me to help out around his apartment... like if he makes me dinner then he expects me to put the dishes in the dishwasher. Seemed strange for not having dated that long. He also said he doesn't believe in honeymoon periods and for him what you see is what you get and if I don't like him now then I won't ever.

A week later he bought me flowers, a necklace and two weeks later he invited me to go home and meet his parents.

Something isn't sitting right with me with this guy. He also never talks about himself. He's super closed off emotionally.

My boyfriend is really really into me... and we really like each other and we're good people, but I am beginning to wonder if we are just too different.

He does not drink, at all. I like to go out and have fun, but I'm not a partier. I my future I'd like to go out to a nice little restaurant and wear a cocktail dress and drink a glass of wine with my husband. He will not drink AT ALL.

That and he does not like fancy anything. He doesn't like fancy restaurants or dressing up. He dislikes the idea of having a lot of money.

He's super smart and is going to have a good job, but doesn't want to make a lot of money. He also wants me to be a stay at home mom.. and I can't really imagine anything sadder for my future right now. We are both smart people (he's getting his PhD and I might get mine) and I just can't see myself sitting around at home with kids. I hate the idea of cooking for other people.

He's super nice though, he said that he can cook and I can clean dishes (which I love to do). Idk, he's so willing to compromise. He really loves me, but I just don't know if I can get passed myself.

What do I do? I grew up pretty much italian where we wine and dine our hearts out as a family.. my family doesn't know that he doesn't drink and I'm sure they'll have a lot of red flags...

Also, it's not that I'm not attracted to him... I just don't find him to be super super attractive.

Nonetheless, he has an amazing personality and I think he really loves me. I just have some apprehensions. He's been talking about marriage lately.. and about how he wants to raise his kids and he thinks I'd be a great mom and blah blah. That makes me so nervous! What do I do? I don't want to break it off with him, but I'm worried that our differences might be enough to make me feel like I can't fully love him as much as he deserves... and deserves the best.