I am 28 years old and my boyfriend who I care about very much and I have been dating for about five months. He is 46 and in very good shape for his age (please don't judge my decision to date an older man). We get along awesome and we have a lot in common and very similar values. The only issue is sex still seems to last a minute. Maybe two. I know with younger guys it is easy to get them off with a bj or short sex and then get back at it 20 minutes later for round 2 lol. This is very hard to do with an older man because sometimes he can't perform. Help ! I have tried bjs or no bjs , relaxing massage , and sex at night and then again in the morning. We have sex a couple times a week, sometimes 5 times a week.