I have been with my boyfriend 4 years now. 6 months ago i became aware he had cheated and had a one night stand. At first he denied it but 2 days later confessed what he did. I chose to forgive him. Recently he admitted he wants me to be open minded to going to swingers club, he admitted he has the desire to be with other females but not lose me. He is now saying he wants me to sleep with another male and enjoy doing it he even said he wants to see me being f... k by another male this has me questioning his feelings for me. Why would he want me to be with someone else and why would he want to watch it? If he does care surely he wouldn't want me to be with someone else? Why is he encouraging me to sleep with someone else but doesn't want me to leave him?