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Minus the good looking part 😂😂
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Smart guy! Laziness at home can lead to major problems.
Also, after reading you responses to other comments, the fact that she is so set in her ways, and unwilling to compromise is a MAJOR personality flaw, and would bother me more than anything else you listed.
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So a completely lazy girl at home will not do, even if she is good looking and has a good career?
Precisely. I want kids one day, and she has to be good with kids, especially if she is going to be their mom. And... I'm a neat guy. I want my woman to be neat as well and pitch in around the house.
Yes she leaves dishes in the sink. Hates housework. Sees cook inane cleaning beneath her. Real working woman.
Well, if we make good money, we can eat out and have people come in and clean...
Not enough money to get people to clean. She puts work first, so not that much time to go out with you anyway.
If your work does not allow you to have fun (or pays enough to pay for fun) then I would say she is not ready for a relationship.
Because I need a life partner and loving mother of my children, not Mata Hari with a PhD.
dude, if you work a legit 60 hours a week -- like, you actually WORK sixty hours a week, not counting commute, break, and meal times -- then you should absolutely not have to lift a stinkin' finger to do shit like cleaning the house on weekends. (Unless yr wife also works 60 hours a week, in which case you guys are just doing life wrong and/or can easily afford an entire team of maids.)srsly, what's up with that?
@redeyemindtricks I work as an IT director with an accounting firm. I am literally on call 24 hours a day 7 days a week, so yeah i am supposed to be off on the weekends, but during tax season i dont get days off. The smallest ammount of work i have done in a week is 55 hours. My average is 60 - 65, and during Tax season its been almost 80 hours in a week. My wife goes to school during the week, she is trying to become a teacher. She is also a Volley Ball coach. She works at most about 18 hours a week, and she works about 10 hours a week on her school stuff. I am working as hard as i am to put her though school.
Well, I'm not you, but... if I were you, I'd put my damn foot down and say, that's it, I'm not doing another ounce of cleaning in this house, as long as the distribution of other work is as lopsided as it is.I mean, unless she is shouldering other massive burdens you just haven't mentioned, like childcare (I don't know whether you have children).Or unless you are an OCD neat-freak whose standard of cleanliness is just much, much higher than hers. (In that case, you should *always* do more of the cleaning, since that's only fair.)Yr dedication to helping her get through school is admirable -- but, you shouldn't let yrself get used to a situation where you are giving way, way, way more than she is. That never ends well.
@redeyemindtricks The only kid we care for is a Bom Bay cat named midnight. Not my intention here to say she does not help, She does quite a lot. Dont get me wrong i cook every day. I love to cook so its not a burden. We switch off on the weekends though, our deal is she handles stuff during the week, and if i am not working on the weekend i will take care of everything on the weekend. Definitely not OCD, and she is always happy to help. The thing that i am happiest about, last week i came home from work in a lot of pain. I hurt my foot at work. She told me to take my shoe off, so i did. my foot was bleeding and soaked through the sock. Her response was awesome, she cleaned it up for me (wasn't serious enough for the cost of a hospital) and told me to just sit down, she handed me and angry orchard hard cider and proceeded to make dinner, and cuddle with me after dinner. I love what she does for me so much..
Well, alright -- if you don't *feel* shorted, then, I guess you aren't shorted. (Yr original post read somewhat like a veiled complaint.)Still, you should be pretty vigilant, with watching out for this kind of inequity becoming a standard. Once unfair becomes "fair", it's awfully hard to restore actual fairness again. Believe me, I've seen this kind of thing ruin marriages before, once a whole bunch of EXTRA work (= children) is thrown into the equation.Like, basically, imagine adding X amount of work into your schedule, and also adding the same X amount of work into hers. If that's do-able for both of you, then, awesome. If it's do-able for her but it would break you utterly, then... there's a problem there.Just sayin'
@redeyemindtricks I definitely understand. If i didn't have time i would ask more of her. But i feel like she deserves breaks as well.
Yeah, like I said, at the end of the day it's a matter of what you think, and what she thinks, and that's it.But, try that thought experiment where you add the same X amount of work/responsibility into BOTH of yr schedules, and see what happens. That's all I'm saying you should do. If that's still manageable, then, you guys are set.If it isn't, then, having children is likely to upset the equilibrium, severely.
@redeyemindtricks Thanks you have given me something to think about.
What if she was stuck in her ways and never learned or cared to learn?
I would try to encourage her more she has motivation for her career so she has motivation in side to begin with she must really be an uptight girl to be like that in first place but people can change
She CAN't change. 😂😂
Then it could be a problem for a long term relationship if she ain't prepared to make some sacrifices 😀
👍🏻 smart man
what does collecting "trinkets" have to do with anything? hahah
Great career, but not lots of 💵💵. Great career here means fulfilling
Not enough money. Just prestige.
Then she better add cooking, cleaning, and parenting to that prestige. After all, prestige and four bucks will get you a cup of coffee at Starbucks.
Smart girl 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
And she's good looking 😂
For shizzle. ..
Not really. Her answer to me was that she was bringing in "prestige" not money.
Very good when she feels like it. But is usually busy and tired. Work comes first!
Hmmmm. . . that doesn't sound too compelling to be honest.
Smart guy 👍🏻
Ya girls like that look for slaves like you. 😂
I ain't nobody's lapdog
yeah men are getting tired of you women trying to manipulate and control us