Most Helpful Guy
I sometimes find it's because you haven't given the proper closure is why they will go beyond the blocking. Like if you are pretty clear what you want, whether a relationship of any sort will happen again or not. Then there is also tempering expectations. Like if it's okay to talk, but not at the pace he is pushing like unexpected visits.
Most Helpful Girl
Unfortunately the only ex I've really experienced this to the level you're talking about was a crazy stalker so the police kind of handled that for me.
On occasion I'll hear from random ex's, the normal "how's life?" stuff and that's that sometimes more.
It doesn't happen now as much but a while back I used to get it more. I've found if you straight up tell them to fuck off and it's not going to happen it usually makes them stop and once or twice I just had to ignore them, eventually they get that no message is a message and go away.
If I were in your place I'd either tell him, if you're interested, what your expectations are for what you want in a relationship and let him make the next move. If he gets distant and plays games tell him this is the last time you'll have any contact with him. If you're not interested then tell him what you want and tell him he's not proved himself to be a man that can give you that and that you have no interest in hearing from him again. And stick to it! He tries again fucking ignore him.
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