I don’t enjoy sex with others... What is wrong with me?

Im 23. I am certain I am straight. This has been an issue for me since I’ve become sexually active a few years ago. I masturbate all the time and have since I was like 6 years old. I fantasize about sex and enjoy that part. I love flirting with men, I love the sexual build up and tension that happens before sex, but when we actually get into bed or wherever, I am so completely unsatisfied. And then I start thinking about how the guy I’m with must know, because I’m probably dryer than the Sahara desert (literally had an ex tell me that I was that before) or I’m too tight since I rarely do have sex since I only have sex with men I am dating and trust more than others. I’m not sure why, but I just don’t find it pleasurable, fun, or anything. When the dick is inside me, I feel certain feelings that maybe could be pleasure but it isn’t at the same time? Kinda painful but not like painful in a bad way? But I just don’t like it. And then I feel like it takes f o r e v e r. Towards the end I’ll just lay there and hope the guy finishes because I get so tired of it especially when I don’t even feel anything good.
It’s strange because I can coregasm. Which is the ability to have an orgasm from just working your abdominal muscles. I can coregasm in like 1-2 minutes but then when I have sex it can take over a half hour and I won’t even come close. What is my problem? I feel embarrassed and dysfunctional.


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  • A) do you guys even do proper foreplay?
    B) Lube?
    C) You sure those guys knew what to do?

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    • 5d

      Maybe not. Actually the guy I was just with and am with now, he didn’t do any foreplay

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    • 5d

      Well, were the other guys more kind to you? If any, that is.

      Because if not, you just... Booked sex as something... Kinda bad in yourself.

    • 5d

      If you wosh to talk it over, send a PM. I actually dealt with this problem a few times. It's way more common than you'd think.

  • If you masturbate a lot, that might be a reason. You body is just not interested anymore.
    Plus the fact that if you masturbate you probably fantasize about things that are not there with your partner, so your mind get less interested as well.

    Long story short, masturbating too much only makes you want to masturbate more and dismiss sex.

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  • Perhaps more foreplay is in order. You need to communicate with your lover when having sex. Different positions, taking control, etc.

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  • If ypu fell unsatisfied try a gang bang, ever had onee?😍😍😍😌

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  • Sounds like you've been dating losers who don't know how to please a woman.

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  • Because sex should be made with love. This is what happens when we misinterpret it.

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  • How many guys have you had sex with?

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  • Do u enjoy foreplay?

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  • Hello

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  • Ever been with a girl or tryied toys?

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    • 5d

      I have not

    • 5d

      Give it a try u might be a lesbo or maybe ur just too sexual for the men you mess around with.. Toys make the desert rain

  • Dear it's fine the reason is u have a stress... u think to much just enjoy and let it go..

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  • You need sex with a woman. It might be better for you. A woman will focus on what you truly need, foreplay...

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What Girls Said 1

  • Probs cos your idea of sex has been distorted from the age of however old you were first to watch porn.

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