What is the youngest you'd have sexual relations with?

Ok, so I've wondered about this for a long time, because nearly every time this question is asked, men (usually, but #NotAllMen) answer something along the lines of "As long as she's legal." And every time I see this, I'm gonna admit that I cringe. Because age of consent varies. Some is 18, other places it's 14, some places it's 12 even, and other areas there is even as young as 10 (and younger!) if they have religious "exception". So when I hear "whatever is legal", I feel that a lot of men don't have their own internal moral compasses, because the legal limit varies. I know I'm going to get hate for this, and of course I don't hate men (nor are all men like this because I've met many men who don't use the "legal limit" excuse and wouldn't even go younger than 20s), I just cringe when I hear that "it's legal, so I'll bang her."

So, honestly. What is the youngest you'd have sex with and/or date if there were no legal limits?

What is the youngest you'd have sexual relations with?
  • Whatever is legal, 12 or younger even
    Vote A
  • 13
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  • 14
    Vote C
  • 15
    Vote D
  • 16-17
    Vote E
  • 18-20
    Vote F
  • 21+
    Vote G
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  • Well, first of all I should say that sex and dating are two completely different things for me.

    So, let's first talk about sex.
    I guess the youngest I would go - provided it was legal and happened with her explicit consent - would be around 14-15. If she was 15, I would feel pretty comfortable about it. If she was 14, I'd probably have some moral qualms but depending on the situation, I'd still do it. Somehow, 14 is like an important border to me. I would never go below that.

    Dating is a completely different matter. When I date a girl, I am looking for someone that can talk to me on an eye-level. By that I mean a woman who roughly stands at a similar point in her life. For example I wouldn't want to date a girl who wants to party every weekend because I'm not at that age anymore. I also want a woman who is about as mature as me. So... the lowest I would go for a serious relationship would be about 25, which is 5 years younger than me. My wife is actually only 9 months younger than me and I think that's pretty cool.
    The upper limit for dating would be about 32, maybe 33, so 2-3 years older than me.

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    • I'm surprised someone as progressive as you would go for someone that young. That's literally half your age.

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    • I don't even consider 18 yr olds as adults, but that's when the US considers them legally and grants them many, but not all, rights. I'm in favor of the voting age being raised. You can't sign a contract with someone underage here. They can't own lands or homes. Driving with restrictions under the age of 18 protects them since many of them get into car accidents. I used to work for insurance, and the drivers with most violations were really young.

      It is gross. You're arguing that fucking someone less than half your age should be ok. Or is. It's very gross and I hate pedo men since lots of older men harass young teens, thinking it's ok. It isn't. I'm not gonna say that finding teens attractive is wrong, but I will say that wanting sex from them is.

      The 6yr old is essentially the same argument you're making. If it's ok for them to decide on their own to date and kiss, why is it bad for them to choose adults? Because you don't have the same mental capacities as a 6 yr old or 14yr old. That's why it's wrong for you to want to intervene on that action.

      Ok, how about this label, child predator. There's a whole show based on this and that's the label they use.

      I wanted to see how many sick fucks there are. Are you new here? I'm very judgmental. You're invited to comment but that doesn't mean that it's gonna be a kumbaya fest and you'll get no criticism. Sorry, not sorry.

      Also, before you block me too, Athena374 sends her regards: "Hey @Buch can you pls do me a favor? Can you tell that BlueCoyote guy I said he is a vile disgusting pedo prick? He acts all high and mighty and then he says stuff like that? 🤣 That’s priceless. He blocked me cause he’s a coward."

    • Okay, first of all, I won't block you. I think it is pretty sad you are such a judgmental person but hey, that's your problem.

      As for Athena, I must comment on this. Maybe you're not going to care anymore because you already hate me now and lost all empathy but I must comment regardless. The reason I blocked her is because she claimed that I was lying about my disability. She said "sorry, I'm not gonna waste my time talking to fake blind people." Incidentally, she made this comment after I complimented her for her stances on feminism. In other words, her comment was extremely uncalled for. I did not bring up my disability to make her pity me, I brought it up to make a point regarding her question. The fact that she attacked me on such a low, childish level really shocked me and yes - it broke my heart. Because believe it or not, the person on the other side of your screen is also a real human being. I am currently going through the toughest time in my life, as my condition is incurable and I am going blind, losing so much of my life. I am coping as well as I can and it's a struggle every day. The fact that she would call me a liar regarding this issue was incredibly hurtful to me.
      Now think about it: who was the vile person here?
      Do I sometimes attack people on this site? Absolutely. But you will NEVER see me be such a soulless, coldhearted fuck to go that low. I will attack your politics, I won't bully you for something you were born with. THAT to me, is disgusting.

      I'll leave the other discussion as is since I do not think it is worth arguing any further. You keep misrepresenting what I say and so I'm basically fighting against windmills here. I don't think you were trying to understand where I'm coming from and I can't make you try.

  • I'm concerned with 2 things: how mature she (emotionally and physically) and how prepared she is to handle an unwanted pregnancy (financially, prudently, and emotionally)

    Very few women below the age of around 30 would be suitable.

    I can't read that map on my phone but did I read (with squinted 50 year old eyes) the lowest limit is 12? How many 12 year Olds can handle an unwanted pregnancy? Does anyone SERIOUSLY think a 12-year-old could raise a child?

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  • 20 is probably the youngest I would date or have sex with. Even guys who are of a legal age (I am speaking about those who are 18-19) I wouldn't be interested in because they would be in a totally different mindset from me. I'm out of college and working full-time, I would want someone who is in a similar stage of life

    Note: Just to clarify, I don't have casual sex so anyone I'm having sex with, I would be in a relationship with.

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  • I get what you're saying but nobody really has "their own internal moral compass". Morality isn't really objective and your morals are shaped by your culture, religion, etc. That's why these things vary all over the place.

    Forever ago it was normal for a girl to get married at 13, now most places in the west don't even allow it until after 18. People didn't suddenly become more moral, the norms just changed.

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    • Fair enough. However, why is that women's morals have changed more than men's? Most women I've known don't go lower than them. And if they do, it's not by much. But many men are willing to go as low as teens.

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    • ya I can't imagine whats it like to have 100's of men want to forcefully shove their dicks in me... like woah woah back the F up lol... nothing is going inside
      I can see why women hate that type of stuff sometimes

    • @TripleAce dude, when you've been hit on since you were like 11 or 12 (like I have), by grown men (again like I have), you kinda get really disgusted and tired of men trying to fuck young girls. I guess I'm answering a bit harshly because I'm bitter at how many much older men would hit on me as an 11-17yr old while they were like 20+ and seriously thought it was ok. Some even would follow me home, or try as I walked back from school. Some would grope me. I just have very little tolerance for those who are ok with sex with minors

  • I voted 21+ because that was the highest bracket in your poll but it is difficult to imagine myself with a woman younger than 50 and even 50 would be unlikely.

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    • That's a good age. I should've added higher brackets, but it's more to see what's the youngest some people would go. Because I hear that "legal" excuse too often.

  • I’d go as low as she has sexual feelings for BUT WAIT before you scold me
    —> just for the experience once and if it was allowed. Just to see what its like. Curiosity is curiosity

    HOWEVER
    My preference is a developed women. 20 is lowest
    Anything younger it’s too kid like mentally and physically

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    • I'm still gonna scold you lol

    • Lol
      Look that’s not my thing
      But you have to think if it was allowed. Society wouldn’t see it as bad. Actually it would be normal as a 30 year with doing it with a girl that’s 18

      I mean In that sense When most guys would be hitting that young blood left right and center. I still wouldn’t. But maybe once lol but the sake of it

      But I can tell you for sure. I’m not the type that likes young girls. I know a lot of guys that do though

      I like them older and developer 😛

    • I know lol You definitely don't seem like the type to go for young birds haha.

  • Honestly, given my age; I'd feel like a huge creep if I was with anyone younger than maaaaaybe 25 years old, and even that would be a stretch.

    Normally, I'd say about 28, or so, but if we got along like soulmates, then I would say 25 would be my absolute limit. That limit will also increase, as I get older.

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  • It’s not age so much as maturity. I have zero interest in being with someone who is mentally a child even if they looked like a grown woman.

    I never get why some guys are into underage girls (teenager) because to me 95% of them do not even look attractive. I stopped finding their look attractive when I was maybe 8-10 years older ish. Plus the mental thing already mentioned

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  • When I was 16 I dated a 14 year old and all she wanted was sex, sex, sex. People don't like to admit it but there's plenty of 12, 13 and 14 year old girls that know exactly what they want and know exactly what their doing, they're far from innocent, like my ex.

    As far as dating goes, well dating is just saying so I'm pretty flexible when it comes to those brackets. I've met some really mature younger girls as well as totally immature ones, it all depends on the person. As far as I know I don't really think there's any "legal limitations" when it comes to dating is more so just social pressures and norms that influence that. But me myself I'd say if she was mature, had a goal and knew what she wanted or at least had an idea I'd probably date as young as 13.

    Dating of course does not mean sex, for any of you imbeciles out there who don't seem to know the difference. But of course the question of intimacy and it's boundaries would arise. I would say under the pressures, norms and laws we have now I would only go as far as oral sex if she was the one that came to me with the idea of doing it, that way I'd know she wanted to do it, if she came to me with the proposition of sex, though I'd be tempted I would suggest oral sex as a substitute until she was around 14-15. But to answer your question if those laws weren't there yes I'd have sex with her as long as it was she was the one asking me to do it with her.

    I know I'll probably get a lot of hate for this answer but quite frankly I don't care. I'm answering a question honestly and if you don't like my answer then block me, because if you start commenting, calling me names and whatnot for whatever idiotic reason you can muster inside your tiny brain then I won't hesitate for a second to block you.

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    • It's a touchy subject but I think your answer is rational and realistic, I know when I was 14-15 how much some girls wanted exactly that, sex, and those were girls who were younger than me like 2 or even 3 years younger. Probably a lot of guys who wrote 18+ actually agree with what you wrote but just can't say that openly because of those social and artificial norms you mentioned there

    • I am naturally attracted to mature women and a lot of them older than me, a sexy women can also be my age or younger than me, but those teen girls can be very sexy and seductive also and it is what it is, but if she is a kid you can see that on her face, also if someone is a pathological predator and would hurt a kiddo in any way there is something wrong with that person and should be treated as such and as necessary, sanctioned and treated

    • I'm glad you took the time to actually read what I wrote and responded with grand intelligence. I also agree with what you said 100%. Thank you for your responses.

  • 25. Anything younger and I have trouble relating to them. Yes I'd like to have a conversation with whomever Im sleeping with so thats a contributing factor. The other is the eww factor. It just dosen't seem right to sleep with an 18 year old at my age. They can still seem so child like.

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  • Why u want it is more important..

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  • For me? 25 or even 28.

    Otherwise, age of consent laws are there for a reason. I disagree with the states/countries that allow 16 yo kids to have sex, they're barely cognitive about the consequences.

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  • I think 27 is the youngest i've went. And to be honest i felt weird about it. but i thought we had a lot in common. Turns out my "weird" instincts were correct. lol

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  • 19 is the lowest i'd go even though NC's Age of consent is 16 thats still too young

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    • 16 with no restrictions? :o

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    • North Carolina statutory rape law is violated when a person has consensual sexual intercourse with an individual under age 16. A close in age exemption exists when the offender is less than 4 years older. No employee of a K-12(unless they are not a teacher, administrator, student teacher, safety officer, or coach) may engage in sexual activity with a student , unless they are married, regardless of age.

    • minimum penalty is 25 years in prison

  • Probably early 20s but even then I'd feel weird because I feel old now that I'm in my 30s

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  • Maybe 22. Sure, even a ripe and ready 14er can be appealing but I would want a partner to have an adult mentality.

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  • The only woman I have had sexual relations is 23 and we have just started.

    That said, I think I will only have sex with women of my age or older.

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    • *older than me.

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    • @Athena374 Everyone else can do as they want, as long as it's legal.
      I just don't want to have relationships with people younger than me. Friendships maybe, romantic relationships no.
      I wouldn't be the right partner for them and they wouldn't be the right one for me.
      On those aspects I am very strict.

    • I don't know about that and ok.

  • 18 would be the youngest, even though the age of consent is 16.

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  • I only like older women. My experiences with younger women are a turn off
    ~Mr Bails Extraordinaire

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  • Looking for a date for New Year's Eve? 😂

    It's relative. When I was 18, the answer was around the same. Through my 20s, 18 or 19. 30s and older, 21 and over.

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  • My main thoughts about this is that I want to have sex with a girl that I like and appreciate for more than their body. (But sure, it helps) I can't have a relationship with a girl that's too immature, that just annoys me. I like to have intelligent conversations once in a while. If I can't have that with you, odds are that I don't want you whether you are 18, 25 or 32.

    That said, I'm 23 now and I would be ok with an 18y. o. mayyybee like 17 and 8 months 😂

    I think when most say legal, they mean 18. (Legal for porn, not just legal for consent. Most of us are inspired by porn anyways)

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  • Younger than 18 or in high school is where I'm no longer interested.

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  • If she knows what she’s doing and wants to do it. Although 27 is the perfect age for me

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  • 17, but once I'm older I'd say 18... as long as its legal

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  • 18 is the limit to be a virgin for girls and for boys its 21 in our country..

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  • whatever legal is fine, its different from different culture and country.

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  • 18 is the youngest I've ever had sex with.

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  • What about u

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  • Now? 35 or so... ;)

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  • As a 25 year old 18 is the lowest I will go.

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    • When I was 25 I asked out a woman who worked in a nearby office. Then I found out she was 18. On the date it was like talking to a little kid. I was over it within a minute. She looked fine as hell tho. After that I never considered anyone under 21. At my age now I wouldn’t go under early 30s

  • 18 years old is fine.

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  • 30. I like older

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  • 19...

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    • Hey @Buch can you pls do me a favor? Can you tell that BlueCoyote guy I said he is a vile disgusting pedo prick? He acts all high and mighty and then he says stuff like that? 🤣 That’s priceless. He blocked me cause he’s a coward.

    • He's gonna block me too lol

    • Thanks lol

  • @Bunch how’s the dog?

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    • She's doing so much better now! I had to take a break because she was recovering very slowly, but now she walks, runs, can jump and everything. I'm so happy that she's progressed so much. Thank you for asking :)

    • Ok that’s good and this is coolgirl I had to make another account

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  • I voted F.

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  • I'm 18 years old so anything below 18 is a no go.

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  • I'd go for no less than two years younger than me.

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  • I am ok with 16+

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