Is sexuality a phase?

So let me get this straight without sound sexist. I am a guy and I've always been in love with girls. I liked them both sexually and romantically. But all of them liked me as a friend and i have always been rejected by them. I am attractive and smart and i dont know what makes them see me that way. The past years I've been attracted to guys because i can communicate with them more and i can't see girls the way i used to. I dont know if i got bored of them its just that i approach guys now and not girls like i used to. I dont think im desperate.

Is sexuality a phase?
Is sexuality a phase?

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  • Sexuality is more a process of discovery, not a phase. Sometimes chemistry and rapport with someone can determine wether you feel enough attraction to want to take your curiosity further, especially if you can communicate with guys better. Was similar for me, though I didn't base this because I felt like a failure with women,,

    Being openminded is a good thing and not living by some standard where you must force yourself to only be attracted to women, simply because you believe society dictates that you must. You should explore this, you may be surprised the attraction is real and can enjoy exploration of your sexuality. However do not pursue this in a slump of depression as a way of settling, will never work and feel unnatural

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  • it's a phase in that it starts around your age and goes til at least 60 or so. It's hormones.
    The girls... they are rejecting you because of the energy you project and how you present yourself. fix that stuff, which is your internal self confidence and masculine... and they will change their tune. Just standing correctly and speaking correctly makes a difference. A lot of guys are trained poorly or just don't get it and suffer... for years... until they grow, change. Girls are feminine, they need to see the masculine you.

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  • It sounds like you're confused. There is not really a 'phase' for sexuality, either you are or you aren't. You shouldn't turn to men just because you can't find a woman, that'll lead to some major problems and you would likely end up hurting someone. And vice versa. You really need to take some time and think if it's what you really want or if it's just loneliness.

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    • What he really wanted was a girl and obviously he's lonely so he's turned to guys, it was all stated.

    • @AllThatSweetJazz so sad, and symptomatic of the cruelty of modern day humanity. I doubt the poor fellow will get the satisfaction he craves from a homosexual relationship; he should do better to keep to himself, or avail himself of a sexbot (😂just kidding on this last phrase 😂).

  • Take a step back and ask girls why they don't see you as the dating type, then you can work towards it.

    Turning to guys isn't the best option

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    • You are right. Turning into guys isn;t an option cause i can't force myself being attracted to them. I realized this week. But girls only see me as a friend.

    • Kindly get their opinion on why they don't see you as one @urfavetallguy

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  • It's okay to be curious. This could develop into bisexuality or you could end up feeling like you're gay. Either option is fine. Dont suppress it, that wouldn't work out too well for you.

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  • There are terms for that these days it’s called being open minded, not boxing yourself in, not predetermining who you are or what you like but being fluid and loving people for who they are not just their gender!

    Just go with it don’t worry about it it’s a change or what it means. If your happy that’s all that matters

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  • Sexuality is not a phase. Curiosity is.

    I used to enjoy flounder fish all the time until I was introduced to whiting 👀 you don’t have to have your mind set on one thing your whole entire life. You are 18, you have a lot to explore. Maybe you don’t know who you are 100% and it is completely fine to change your mind. It’s possible that you’ve just opened up apart of yourself that you never even knew was there. You may possibly begin to like women again later down the line but only time will tell

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  • Sexuality isn't a phase. Curiosity is, though. And by the way, nothing about what you said is sexist.

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  • I mean you might be gay or bi but I don't think that really depends on the success or lack of success with dating someone. I'm just plain not attracted to men so dating them is out of the question (it's pointless).

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  • I've definitely gone through phases over the last several years with sexuality.

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  • Well maybe you are bisexual haha nothing wrong in it.

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  • I weant through a phase where I was curious about homosexuality but it never really went passed that and honestly I think I was just watching to much porn at the time...

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  • Some people are bi. As far as females/women: lots of guys agree that the female idea of love is never the same as a guy’s. The teaching that men & women are ‘equal’ in thinking is wrong.

    You’re chasing fool’s gold with that gay love. Studies have shown that gay men have less love/intimacy than lesbians & straights in relationships. Their divorce rate is higher too.

    www.psychologytoday.com/.../are-same-sex-or-heterosexual-relationships-more-stable

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  • Your sexuality is not a 'phase'. If you like sucking dick then you're gay - if you like pussy you're not. It's pretty simple.

    Other guys are a guy's buddies. His friends. Guys are way more fun for doing guy stuff, having fun. Never give up your friends for any woman. EVER.
    Girls and girlfriends, wives, are for a romantic partner, for sex and intimacy, and a different kind of relating, and for making a new family. Most are attracted for sex, at least initially. Don't confuse the two - you need BOTH - you need your friends, and you need a good woman.

    If you're having trouble with the ladies then you likely need improvement in at least one or more of the three basic needs for success:
    1. Looks
    2. Money
    3. Confidence. Irrational confidence.
    So hit the gym, HARD, and make a ton of dough - you'll gain the confidence you need from the effort. And you have all the pussy you can handle. I guarantee it.

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  • Homosexuality is just a fetish, were you ever molested or raped by a male?

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  • I don't see myself turning back. A phase doesn't last 7 years.
    ~Mr Bails Extraordinaire

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  • To smoke or not to smoke is a Choice, a Conscious Decision. To drink alcohol or to abstain from alcohol is a Choice as well, a Conscious Decision. To pick up a gun and rob or hurt someone, or to refuse to do so, is a Choice, a Conscious Decision. All these bear consequences you will have to live with. In the same way, your sexuality, who you have sexual intercourse with, is a Choice, a Conscious Decision. All humans bear responsibility for every Choice, every Conscious Decision they make, and must accept that they have to live with its consequences.

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  • You’re curious. That’s ok.

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  • I don't think so

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  • An abomination🤦🏾

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  • Life is a phase

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  • Not very

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  • It's just a phase

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  • To be technical, if this was the case—everyone would turn out to be straight towards to end which obviously is not correct to be realistic.

    So that’s crossed out,
    What could it possibly be then?
    Curiosity. That’s what seems to trigger it however the curiosity can also become permanent at times.

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