I thjnk monogamy is perfect in many ways. With the right partner monogamy is perfectly capable of satisfying a mans innate needs. Also I would like to think men and women have better things to do with their life other than worrying about just sex and relationship issues... I have other things I want to achieve with my life. Other goals I need to satisfy... Constantly having your conscience preoccupied with sex and relationship issues is a pretty lowly existence in my opinion.So yeah I think monogamy is the easiest solution to living a fulfilling life. At the very least it can tick most of a guys needs and it also allows you to foster stronger emotional ties to your partner.
It doesn't bore me it just seems as if the so called "married people" try and judge you for not being "grown up" or adult like because you are okay with being single at the moment. So if you are one of those judgers... stop pushing your creepy cult of monogamy on to everyone you know!
I think being with different partners would be far more boring since you don't have that emotional connection and if you do its very weak or superficial.
In America, it's seems more socially acceptable to cheat, rather than engage in a mutually agreed upon non-monogamous relationship.
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Its not that monogamy bores me, as such. My girlfriend and I are perfect for each other and we've both expressed multiple times that its the best sex either of us has had.However, we both enjoy being able to get more from the world. That's why we chose to become non-monogamous.
'get more from the world'Sounds like greed to me
It can sound like whatever you want it to, friend. Greed is a subjective term. I'm not here to convince you of anything.
Like if I eat till I'm full, but then I demand more and start looking for a second meal, that is 100% objective greed.Just like what u are doing. Its just sad that u view this decision as 'getting more from the world' says a lot about where ur head is at. Sounds like u haven't even discovered what the world really has to offer, you're stuck in the first couple of levels like most people
Ok, brother, whatever you say. I learned a long time ago that there's no point in arguing with people like you. If you want to have a completely rational discussion about this topic, I'm more than happy to. But since you're already throwing assumptions down at me from your metaphysical high horse, I feel like that's not what you have in mind.
What assumptions have I made? You said you wanted more from the world so you decided to become non monogamous. That says more than you know
@No_Archons That's just one of the assumptions you've made. The rest are based entirely on your own understandings of the world, brother. "Sounds like greed to me", yes, you're quite right. It sounds like greed to 'you'. Yet you clearly don't understand the dynamic that I'm describing and so you're filling in the blanks with what you assume to be true. "... sounds like you haven't really discovered what the world has to offer." Again, you don't know enough about me to understand who I am or what I've discovered about the world. You know nothing of the places I've been, the cultures I've explored, the people I've met, and so you're once again filling in the blanks with assumptions that automatically lean towards your views of me, my relationship, and your own understanding of the world. "you're stuck in the first couple of levels like most people" This was just the icing on the cake really, and it's what led to my comment about your metaphysical high horse. Once again, you're putting your own understanding of the world above the experiences and understanding of others, without actually attempting to see things from their perspective or understand their motivations. So again, let me repeat what I already said to you, brother. "If you want to have a completely rational discussion about this topic, I'm more than happy to. But since you're already throwing assumptions down at me from your metaphysical high horse, I feel like that's not what you have in mind."So far all you've done is confirm my suspicions on that matter! So, do you want a rational conversation, or are you going to continue to talk down to me as if you're a better person, despite knowing nothing about me beyond what you perceive to be some grand insight into my mindset?
I'm not gunna re explain how I actually made no assumptions; I went and defined greed for you ffs, doesn't matter what it sounds like to me or to you, greed is greed and fracturing a monogamous relationship to sleep around has got to be one of the best descriptions of it. Tell me I'm wrong, tell me you decided to become non-monogamous for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with having sex with other people, then tell me how I make unreasonable assumptions...
Wow, you clarified one of the assumptions I mentioned. Good job. But again, your definition of it being greedy is based on your own misunderstanding of the dynamic, as I said.Sex can be a part of it, sure. But we didn't become non-monogamous to go around have sex with people. We've been in such a dynamic since before Christmas and despite being on many dates and having many opportunities, neither my partner nor I have slept with another person. The reasoning is deeper than that. We're not looking for casual sex or hook-ups. So evidently your view that its just about sex isn't remotely supported by the facts. So clearly your assumption (one of the many) is incorrect.Let me ask you, do you only have one friend? Does this one friend share all the same interests as you? Challenge you in all the ways that matter? Have the same sense of humour? Enjoy the same food? Do you only need this one friend and no other?But listen, brother. I already told you: I'm happy to have a completely rational discussion about this topic, but I'm not going to defend actions to someone who starts off by believing themselves to be in a higher moral position based solely on their own subjective view of the world. I've got a feeling you're going to try and wriggle past the fact that your assumption was incorrect, but we'll see.
You answered my question with a question... yeah I have more than one friend... so why do you feel the need to be non monogamous if you don't wanna sleep with other people? Im genuinely curious now
You didn't actually ask me a question. You made a series of statements. I responded to said statements which also included a question which I believe will help me answer your new question. It's going to be hard to explain, especially if you're anti-non-monogamy, but the friends example is usually what I go with. You might have one best friend (for arguments sake) much in the same way a non-monogamous relationship still has a primary partner. My girlfriend is my priority and I am hers, over anyone else who may or may not come into our lives. Yet you'll have other friends who you hang out with and do things with. Your best friend might not like going to the cinema, so you have other friends who do enjoy such things. The reason we decided to explore non-monogamy is that we enjoy being able to build emotional/sexual relationships with new people. Its exciting, its fun, and its harmless. Everyone we go on dates with is fully aware of our dynamic. Sex is a component, but only as far as building the connections goes. We like being able to flirt and date with the knowledge that sex could be the result. But as I already mentioned, neither I nor my partner have done anything sexual outside of our relationship thus far.Id imagine you're probably wondering why we don't just stick with building new friendships if sex isn't the driving force? Well, im sure your aware that the connection between friends and that of romantic/sexual relationships feel different. Its sort of like playing two games of poker: one just for fun and one for money. The feel of the entire game changes just by altering this detail. Another thing to consider is love and attraction. You can be attracted to multiple people at the same time, you can also love multiple people at the same time. Think of families. Your love isn't limited to one member.
I feel its also important to mention that I'm not against monogamy and I'm also not preaching that people should be non-monogamous.
Lol r u gunna answer my question or not?
What is your question?
monogamy is only boring when you have sterile sex for 5+ years without marrying or making kids. it can't be sex and romance forever. Anti-contraception= The future
Yes. A kid can help a couple reconcilaite of small things and calm down for the sake of that kid.
@up_64 When people are responsible for more than their own lives, they begin to make sacrifices for the greater good, and realize those sacrifices were not sacrifices, but an investment in something greater than themselves.
My wife and I are The Dynamic Duo. It's great! No boredom here. As time goes on, we still learn things about each other and have fun new experiences. I think as time goes on, we will have such a strong understanding of one another that other people would almost be intimidated to try and get between it.
Not to me, not at all. I'd actually not be a pig and instead appreciate what I have. But it seems I can't trust anyone else to actually mean what they say about their position on monogamy. They always get bored and/or leave the relationship for one reason or another. And then whatever the reason is, it's always the guy's fault.
If you are not satisfied with your partner or she has some problems ( infertility, critical illness) and your partner agrees for second marriage, and you are able to finance both, then it's ok, otherwise just marrying because you are bored or don't like your partner anymore then it's not fair
No, monogamy is extremely important to me. I despise any person or culture that promotes polygamy.We literally evolved as a species to be monogamous. slate.com/.../...n-of-human-mating-strategies.html
Pfft. Bored. Sexually immoral people will call it anything to justify being lecherous.
Yes, although I have never cheated. The lack of freedom bores the shit out of me. I wanted to go out and not answer a bunch of damn questions and make my own friends.
Monogamy is never boring, just the person you may be with
It would bore me over time. But I'm single so it's not like I have to consider monogamy atm
It’s not a fact of life... otherwise we’d all be with the first person we kissed! We all change and so do our relationships as a consequence
I would be very happy only having one person to share my life with... if only I could find her...
Yeah, sometimes. I don't know why people pretend that it's supposed to be the norm; it's like we're all too socially pressured by each other to say anything.
I'd love the feel of belonging to a man. I need it... but with the right man, of course when we're both right for each other... it's just heaven.
Well i am in open relationship and i enjoy it and love it
Yep thats why i do open relationships.No boredom here🎉🙌🏻
No, not personally. I enjoy the consistency of monogamy.
If you truly, madly and deeply love the person you’ll never think of being bored with him/her.
Fairytale, fugazy, it doesn't exist.
I beg to disagree. People from history know the real meaning of monogamy. You don’t know everything. You only know the things you’ve experienced and have little knowledge of what life can offer to a person. So who are you to say it doesn’t exist when there are a lot of evidences through time.
Past is in the past. We live in Today. And with social media, Tinder etc with all that unpatient nature we have results will be different. I hope you find your one tho.
You have a point and thanks!
Bore?Like in a game?😂😂Nope, it doesn't.It isn't some match or job.
Nope. I'm monogamous and in a commited relationships.
I think deep down we all want to try different spices besides salt and pepper.
I can only be annoying with one person, And just annoy one person...
No , if i have someone great i am not going to throw it away
Before I would say yes, but I had some great fun before :)!
No it doesn’t. I like being with one person and one person only
A pussy is a pussy. Pretty much the same. The person though is special. Uggg, I sound like a woman.
I don't believe human beings are designed to be monogamous.
I think you have enough in one person to explore and explore the world with
If you answered yes time to research the Coolidge Effect
No, not at all.
Never. It's the sweetest thing 🖤
No, I like it!
No it doesn't
No, it excites me
Not at all.
It’s neither boring nor exciting for me
Nope, not really.
It's a cute concept but not completely practical.
It is practical. for one with a soul
Women who say NO here are just hilarious :D
I've tried sleeping around. It was ok. I was far. more excited just sleeping with my most recent ex. Now, I'll probably never find another guy that exciting for me.
@justsomeperson2u women may prefer relationship but they wouldn't say some good sex if they encounter
Sex is more exciting not in a relationship as you get bored in a relationship (stop trying new things, feelings get in the way). I managed to not be bored with my last relationship and it was far more exciting (new things, and first guy to be as rough as i like).
Does not being a manwhore bore me?Nope
I don’t know still learning.
No id be happy if one girl liked me.
I asked it twice already LOL you can scroll up
Nope. Prefer it. It's also less complicated.
Nope I'm actually enjoying it
I have no issue with monogamy, but i have fantasized about having thousands of children with thousands of women. Odd fantasy, i know. Something very appealing to me about my genes being in 5% of the worlds population in 500 years
If a woman can get you off and you can do the same for her, plus being your favorite person to be around, wouldn't you be monogamous too?Not having to worry about the excitement of STD's is an added bonus.
The fact that it is so often publicized as being boring is a sign that our society is going to shit. The good thing is that I think a lot of people are waking up to it and are fighting against it politically.
Ikr... the first thing that came to mind after reading this question is when did it become boring? Why is it considered boring when the element of bore is not because you're in monogamy but because you're not doing something fun with your SO
@Some_Goof People have gotten so lazy with their logic. That, and they don't want to admit their own faults or things that make them feel bad or guilty, so they deflect. It's really bad. We have this culture of deflection rather than owning up to ourselves. Don't be like that. We need to be honest with ourselves, always. That is what's going to lead to real progress. Socially, politically, in literally everything.
I love having sex with one person. Even when I’m single I find one guy to have sex with and I don’t have sex with anyone else. There’s something special about being with a man that knows how to please you, you can experiment new things and be adventurous. There’s just nothing better than that sexual connection.
No, people are boring
No. I like just having one person to give my love to, I do not get bored of the same thing usually when it comes to most things in life because I like security.It's just hard to find the right one, maybe it's because in your early 20s most people want to just have fun.
Monogamy can be boring if you're with a person who's boring. Find a partner who's just as adventurous as you are, and it's not boring at all.
No, i have great sex with my girlfriend
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