Is there a way a man agrees to have more foreplay than just intercourse with a woman?

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Is there a way a man agrees to have more foreplay than just intercourse with a woman?

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Like the guy wants so much to have sex with this particular woman who he knows, and she has the hots for him as well but the 2 times they both had sex already in the past it seems the guy are not much into foreplay, he wants to get down to business when they are together and starting the making out. I dont know if all men are like that or just some. I heard some guys do nto liek much foreplay but for women is KEY the foreplay to avoid discomfortm, being jumpy anxiety nervousness, etc etc

In this case the guy wants to go straight to business with the lady he knows has the hots for him as well, the only foreplay he enjoys maybe is make out and her sucking him but just for some minutes and then go to penetration.

The lady is very attracted to the guy but the guys personality is intense and she on the other hand is not very bold, so those 2 personalities clashes. I dont know ifthat is something related that the guy is no a teenager who has to wait to woo a lady and conquer her, he is a grown up 46 yrd old guy who is single and enjoying life. He is no married he has no kids, so he has not that kind of committment to any or is tied down to a marriage or kids or a serious relationship with anyone else.

Also the guy wants her to go to his place to have sex from her house, no meal date before to start unwind things and catch up in a nromal conversation, enjoy a meal before her going to his place. Like I siad the guy personality is a bit intense. The odd part is that the times they both had alreayd had sex they had gone out to meals firs, but this time is like he wants no meal first or spending some time together on a meal date.

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9 d

She is assuming that, the guy has not told her anything about him not wanting a meal first, but for his personality she is assumign it will happen tht way the moment she will agree to see him again, cause the guy already ask her yesterday to see eahc other again but she has not replied him yet. She has to think first what to reply to him what to text him first and make him wait for a while. Any ideas you may have in mind?

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Anonymous

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Is it being selfish? is it being uninterested in her? Is it being boring sexually?

Yes to all three of the above. If he was more fun sexually, he'd be into more things. If he was still a boring sexual partner, but a giving person, he'd be willing to incorporate her preferences to some extent. If he was transactional but wanted to impress her, he'd be trying harder to.

He's a boring partner who is taking vanilla sex if offered from a woman he doesn't care about.

This woman seems like she needs to learn a lesson it took me a while to ACTUALLY absorb into my head: A slightly less physically attractive partner who is enthusiastic is a lot more fun and ultimately a lot hotter than a nice looking partner who is boring and selfish.

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Is this still revelant?
- Asker
  
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  According to what the thing is the lady inthe post is n inexperienced lady in her 40´s, she just had sex twice with the guy and maybe they just had vainilla sex and always the guy did nto like much foreplay he is more interested in the penetrative part, as I heard many guys like that and not much the foreplay, in this case this guy. And even the 2 times they ahd sex the second time was not very enjoyable to either one, the layd had her period on, nd the guy di dnot like much to have sex with the lady on her period. The lady also di dnto enjoy much having her period o. In thsi case the sex was mehhh, the guy did not lick her out, due tot the period and he did even ask her if she enjoyed the sex. Since the guy di dnot lick her out he ask her to masterbate in front of him so he can get off, the layd did masterbate but for her it was not enjoyable like to have blood on her fingers, like I said she did not like either to have sex on her period. He even told her next time we are intimate please no period. He did fuck her but mildly fopr the fact of the period. Liek i said not all men like to have period sex and this was the second and last time they had sex some months ago. Also here the only foreplay was her sucking him and making out session that only lasted like 5 minutes then he wanted to go straight to penetrative.
- Asker
  
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  The lady here is attractive the reason he had the hots for her, and they know each other for 5yrs but just last year she had sex with him.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Yeah. Everything I said.
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- Asker
  
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  So what did u mean?

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AustinMan | 32.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Influencer

9 d

Absolutely. I'm really kinky and a lot of those kinks get met during foreplay.

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AndyOh | 1.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Explorer

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From what you say, the guy is hoping that she will be just an easy lay when he wants it. No date, no meals, no small talk, no real friendship.
And then to go to her place all the time, just get down to business? No foreplay?
It does not sound like a relationship I would want if I was on the other end.
My advice... dump him and find another guy who has manners and respect and is good in bed, unless she likes that kind of thing.
Good luck.

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Dave-from-Illinois | 133 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Xper 5

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Foreplay is the best part as I get excited just playing with her body. Giving her even a massage excites me. Foreplay is like warming up a car in the winter as it is necessary. I love building the sexual tension in my partner and it leads to a more explosive ending :)

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COMMODOREII | 4.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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I think foreplay is very crucial in a sexual relationship. I know that once i cum sometimes im done so i rely on foreplay and oral to help get her off so that i can finally get myself off and we can finally lay and cuddle. I hear this too often and i don't understand why many guys can be so selfish.

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ImagineSketchy | 1.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Yoda

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Some guys, like me for instance really enjoy foreplay. Not everyone is into it, and you can't exactly make someone want to do more foreplay unless you ask them and they like it enough to do so.

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- Asker
  
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  That is my point some guys do others dont but the ones who dotn dont u think are selfish in some way? becuse i heard that a guy willbelieve the lady was not happy for what the guy will do because he is intense and the lady is anxious
- ImagineSketchy
  
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  Not necessarily. It could be selfishness, and it could be just a lack of interest. What he's interested in is the penetrative part. I get that. For those less experienced, penetrative would be far more appealing than foreplay.
  
  We're all different and we all respond differently. I can't really say why he wouldn't enjoy foreplay with a woman other than the foreign feel of a vagina on places aside from penis. 🤷🏾‍♂️
- Asker
  
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  how can u say that the less experienced want the penetrative part and not the foreplay?
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- ImagineSketchy
  
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  The more experience and exposure you have to the vagina the more comfortable you are around it as someone that doesn't have one. I know when I was just starting out that I was uneasy around it. I wasn't sure how to touch it, I didn't want to touch it and I didn't really like to touch it with my hand (s).
  If you're experienced in all forms, you (males) know how to please a woman and how to listen to what she wants and needs. The guy in question here is an inexperienced lover.
- Asker
  
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  when I meant the inexperienced one I was referring to the woman not the guy
- ImagineSketchy
  
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  I... Don't get what you're asking. When I mentioned less experienced in my 1st reply to your comment, I was referring to the male lacking experience. I would assume that a female with little experience would appreciate more foreplay as a way of helping her get ready for penetrative.
- Asker
  
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  I dont know if the guy is inexperienced lover but i think he had been with other ladies in his past
slatyb | 4.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

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TLDR. Some guys are more giving than others. If it's not working for you tell him what you need. If he's not responsive dump him.

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OlderAndWiser | 13.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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This guy does not want a girlfriend or a relationship. He just wants sex.

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- Asker
  
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  the lady does not want a formal relationship either she is the age of having no patience or tolerance for kids or marriage
- Asker
  
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  She does not want a boyfriend either jsut a guy to hang out from time to time an they know for 5 years
- OlderAndWiser
  
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  So. . . have you talked to him about his lack of attention to your needs?
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- Asker
  
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  No i haven't talk to him about it he si a bit intense and I knwo I should but im afraid if i say something he say i jsut want to fuck i know he enjoys making out and me sucking him offand the first time he licked me out but he prefers more go straight to penetration
- OlderAndWiser
  
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  So if this is just a sexual trade, you are getting the short end of the stick! Maybe you should say to him, "If you want me to keep doing this, you really should try to give me more of an incentive!"
reptocarl | 9.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Master

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Shame on her for not stating she wants lots of foreplay first

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Jamie05rhs | 1.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Yoda

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I use foreplay in every area of my life, not just sex. A lot of people get impatient and tell me to get to the point.

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- Asker
  
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  so is not unusual for some people that they dontliek foreplay
- Jamie05rhs
  
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  I have no idea.
Avicenna | 1.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Master

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If you want something from him, communicate it. He should be willing to please you.

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KashNickels
Xper 2

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Yes he does not care for a relationship as the lady appears to want. He wants the sucky-fucky period. He thinks little of the woman as a piece of meat. Strictly an end to a means.

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Stechupka
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Yes. You just have to find the right guy : )

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- Asker
  
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  there is no relationship liek couple or boyfriend and girlfriend with the gy they are just friends who know for 5 years
- Berethor
  
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  They are not just friends, they are fuckbuddies, so it's a casual relationship.
Anonymous

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I love FP better than sex some times.

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- Asker
  
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  Why some guys do not like foreplay then and they prefer the penetration?
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Different for every guy. Could be that the girl is boring at it? Doesn’t explore enough? Isn’t kinky enough? Many reasons
- Asker
  
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  For what I heard of this case the guy does not liek foreplay because he loves the penetration and itnercourse much for him foreplay is lame

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Berethor | 8.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic. Guru · Accepted Answer

Most men prefer to get to the main event as soon as possible, and not all women care that much about foreplay, but women tend to care about foreplay more than men, also the fact that you are not in a serious relationship is an additional reason for the guy to be more focused on the sex itself, the guy is not looking for an sentimental stuff, and if the lady is truly very attracted to the guy than she don't need much foreplay to get ready, also if the lady don't reply to guy and make him wait, it's not looks like she is very attracted to the guy. The lady claim that she is very attracted to the guy and have hots for him but then she is acting in a opposite way. It's not odd if the guy don't want to go on meals anymore, the guy is no a teenager, and he already had sex with the lady 2 times, so he don't see the point to waste time on meals anymore, also if the guy would spend less time on a meal date than maybe he would have more time foreplay. The lady is not very bold but at the same time she is also not submissive enough, so she acting in a contradicting manner all the time, if the lady is very attracted to the guy and submissive then why didn't she follow the guy's lead? the guy is no a teenager, the guy is experienced, so the guy knows what he doing. The guy also knows that the lady need more practice with PIV, while the lady don't reply him, and waste too much time on other stuff.

Is there a way a man agrees to have more foreplay than just intercourse with a woman?

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