I'm a virgin. There's nothing wrong with me. I just never made much of an effort. Getting close to people was a challenge in my younger years ( due moving a lot and a couple other things), but as I get older, I'm a ton more relaxed and confident and ready to get close to someone. In fact I'm seeing an older lady who's funny and smart and gorgeous. My fear is once sex is involved, I'm gonna ruin it. Any advice? I want to satisfy her, and be a good lover.