As a black woman I never got why a lot of us don't like it. I see a lot of black men embracing women fetishize them even though the big dick applies to all ethnicities. I see Asian warmly embracing when men fetishize them. Why do a lot of us not like this? If a man want to refer to us as chocolate, so what? If a man wants to lust after our plump lips, so what? A lot of us need to start embracing ourselves more and don't be fearful of it.